Jon Morris Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 My wife and I have been seperated for a bit and we have decided to go out on a date on Friday. I am so excited. I need advice on what to do to regenerate that spark we had the first time we went out? This date will define the future of our relationship I think and will decide whether any more dates will be forthcoming and I need to do everything just right. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
1784 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Good for you, Jon. I'll add my two cents here but I'm sure it isn't anything different that you'll find around these parts... - Don't come off overly excited. Be happy that you're there with her but don't make it the end all be all of her existence. This will only make you seem desperate, needy and without anything better to do - Do dress well. Put on your best self. Maybe buy a new shirt. Something she's never seen before. While you two have a lot of history, you want this event to feel new. You want it to feel exciting for her (AND for you). Treat it like a first date. Splash on some cologne. Remind yourself what she dug about you when you first met. Tap into the guy that made her want to marry you in the first place. The right cologne, a good smile and casual conversation can go a long way in these situations. - Concentrate on good, fun, humorous, interesting things. Don't tell her how awful life has been without her. Again, this only comes off as pathetic. You were you way before you ever met her. This is hopefully the first of many meetings. You'll have plenty of time to go over the hard stuff later on. This is a test the waters type thing and you want to be sure that you inject a positive and lasting image into her brain. One she can go home with and feel good about. Other than that, I'm sure you'll do fine. Just keep it light and fun. You'll probably fall into a comfortable rythym with her. Just be sure that it's a positive one. let me know how it goes! Good luck!
dreamingoftigers Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Hey there, I would actually contact Divorce Busters because they are pretty good at giving the practical stuff for these situations. They have really helped me along. On another thread I read about how you were having health/mental health issues over the treatment your wife is giving you. Lots of the DB suggestions help to improve your mental health (no I am not a spammer or in any way affiliated with them). They really have helped and my own marriage is a crap pit!
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