DollyGirl12 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 I read this somewhere. I cannot remember so my apologies for not giving the author credit. It is something that I saved and read and read during my breakup. Now, I am not sexist and I do not believe this applies to men only, it can also apply to women. "There often isn't a 'smoking gun'...but we KNOW instinctually when they are messing around. I had spoken with a private detective for a free consult, and he told me that the very FIRST sign and 'evidence' of a man cheating is that you have to ask that question in the first place "Is He Cheating?' He said that nearly 100% of cases he takes...by the time someone finally consults an investigator...it nearly ALWAYS proves later that their gut instinct was right, and that their BF/husband was definitely cheating on them. He also said that a cheater will nearly 100% of the time DENY, DENY, DENY...and then turn things around on their mate for 'not trusting them'...if this occurs...he said it is also a sure sign your mate is cheating. (a defensive behavioral sign like this is evidence, but not *proof*) He had a number of 'funny' stories about what some of these cheaters said when confronted red handed in the middle of the act! He said that even THEN...when a Cheater is butt-naked and caught actually 'doing the deed'...the will actually be denying what they are seen doing...while they struggle to get dressed!...and then get mad at their GF/wife for 'spying, or checking up on them'... Also, there is a big difference between aman having a 'one time affair'...for which he feels remorse later...and does not repeat this behavior...and someone who 'serial cheats' and is always looking for validation via sexual encounters/affairs...the later is a sign that the person is NOT a 'Player, Romeo, Casanova...or just sowing his 'wild oats'...it is a sign of a man with a personality disorder and character flaw...things that cannot be cured... Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate!"
Derek12b Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate!" I have to agree...with what I've quoted and the rest of your post.
danrs Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 I think that goes both ways. If you are "in tune" to your partner, you know when something is up, even often times before they do. A big tip off for me is a woman "in love" or in lust, simply cannot keep her mouth shut about the guy she has interest for...even with her current partner. Talk of him will always creep into the conversation somehow. Just little tiny tidbits that let you know she is thinking of him when she is supposed to be talking to and thinking about you. The entering of the 3rd party into the conversation doesn't seem to come in a natural way (as like one of her regular guy or female friends would), but rather almost in a forced way at a time in the conversation where it makes little sense. And they seem to come up in conversation just a liittttllleee bit more than all the rest of her friends do. I've seen it nearly every single time. I picked up on it, and I was always proven right in the end.
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