Soru Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 For a while now, i've been feeling like **** within this relationship with my girlfriend of one year. It seems to be like she's bored of this relationship. At least subconsciously. She tells me that she still loves me and wants to be with me, but her actions don't show this at all. Gone are the cute little indicators of affection, gone is the intimacy, and she has started to take me for granted for whenever I do sweet things for her. Her excuse? She blames it on stress. Everything has to be stress. It's stress' fault. Ok. I back up and try to give her space. Because thats what she asked. But once I do that, not only do i start to hurt, but even she starts to miss me, and reccomends us to get back together. And even then her lack of real passion doesn't seem to be there. She tells me she loves me, and lays in the bed and cuddles with me, but thats about all I get. I don't get real major signs of her really loving anymore. Her sex drive supposedly plummeted, but I can't help but get this feeling that she's tired of ME and just won't admit it. Over the past several months, I continued to bring this up to her, but all i end up doing is 'pressuring' her. I love this girl so much. I do practically everything for her. I run to the chocolate store and sneak into her dorm to drop it off with cute messages, I made her a cute youtube video tribute to our relationship on our sixth month (which made her cry), I run in the rain to buy her her favorite flowers by surprise, and hell, for her birthday in june I bought her tickets for her favorite band which were extremely expensive ($300 was the total for both our tickets)....In a completely different city I might add... I'm trying so hard to be spontaneous, and reminding to her that I really do care, and even though she adores these things I don't get them in return...At least not anymore. Last night I called her, and told her that she is just taking me for granted, and that she's 'sorry', and That I dont feel loved anymore and just says the "Well I don't know what to do", and "I'm sorry, this is the way I am". My heart is aching because she is the one girl that really matters to me. I dont want to lose her. But I feel as though that the damage is done, and that even though she says she loves me, her actions dont reflect that. I feel like just a cuddle buddy at this point...who happens to buy her things and make her feel nice for a moment, only for her to overlook it the next moment. She is a sweet and kind person. I'm not making her out to be a bitch or anything. I just need to hear some advice before I do anything rash...
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