confused_blondie Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Here's my story: My boyfriend ended the relationship 3 weeks ago and I still don't understand why. It was totally out of the blue. We'd only been together for 6months and everything was going great. We loved being in each others company. We saw eachother at weekends as both busy with work and we always made time for our friends. There was no pressure for more but out the blue he ended it saying he wasn't ready!!! Ready for what? I didn't want more than we had. We both had are own places so no plans to move in together etc. He was the one, the night before he broke it off, saying how much he loved me and that he couldn't wait to see me. How can that change over night? He said he's been feeling 'not ready' for a couple of weeks but he showed no sign at all. Not once did he cool off. we had just been away together for couple of days and he told how he couldn't imagine being with anyone else and how lucky he was to have found me. I just don't understand why he ended so suddenly??? I said good bye to him and told him that I hope he finds someone he could settle down with and be happy with. Thats when he said he had found that person but at the wrong time and that he loves me so much and always will and wishes he didn't feel the way he does. See why I'm confused!!!! . its now been 3 weeks and since we broke up he keeps messing with my head. I sent him a letter for closure and I asked him to send me my things as no contact is the best way. He then started sending texts saying please don't delete me from your life. Saying that he still loves and can't switch off his feelings but he's just not ready. i've done the no contact thing but i need my things back as he's got an important file that i need for work. i messaged him on fb as I've deleted his number and asked him to send my things as a matter of urgency or if it was ok to collect them myself. He asked why I'd deleted his number and asked why i thought he'd moved on. Going on about how i must think he's heartless but he can't just stop his feelings?????? i only wanted my things back. I just ignored him until he messaged me yesterday asking where he should send my stuff to and if i'm ok. he knows my address so knows where to send it to. He just keeps messing with my head. I'm planning to move to Abu Dhabi in august so trying to move on but i'm just so confused as i really did think the relationship was going to go somewhere. He went from saying he couldn't imagine being with anyone else to ending it in a matter of a few days. Why is he still messing with my head? If he loves me so much then why has he ended it???? One thing he said was 'just because you can't be with the person you love doesn't me you don't love them'????? But if you love someone don't you want to be with them???????
DarkAngel7 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 He sounds very confused. Let him know you deserve more than that. It seems like he expects you to wait on him...WTF? The NC is good because yes he will get a taste of life without you. If he loves you as much as he says, he will come knocking soon enough.
DollyGirl12 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Typical they want out but can't let go completely. But, for your own sanity I would let him know where to send your stuff (although he already knows) and let him know that for your own well being you cannot have further contact with him. But, if he already knows where to send your stuff then it might be best to not reply at all or a simple "my house" and leave it at that. Then go in to full NC.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 assuming youre telling all the facts, I dont care what he says to you, it cant be at all true when he doesnt want to be with you. Hes been thinking of breaking it off for a while, he just wont tell you the real reason why. He was good at keeping you off guard so you couldnt dump him first (in his mind). You dont fall out of love overnight, he has his reasons, he just wont tell you so he can keep you on the backburner pining for him. Youre doing the right thing.
Author confused_blondie Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 they are all the facts. He just keeps messing with my head. Telling me he loves me more than anything but he's just not ready What does that mean? Haven't replied to his message as he knows where to send my stuff. deleted him from fb, phone etc. He messaged me saying he doesn't understand why I'm deleting him from my life. Not answered back. Don't know what he wants me to do or say. I just hope this gets easier as can't get him out my head. Don't think I'll ever understand why it ended so suddenly. Thank for all your replies:p
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