joshextreme Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 I posted somewhere about something and someone said "I think people fear the loss of caring more." In the beginning of a break up all you do is care care care. But do you ever fear not caring? I know right now I would love to not give 2 ****s about my ex. What do you guys think?
threebyfate Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 A lot of people appear to hold on to something, anything, in order to "feel". In holding onto the something, anything, they create a false sense of connection, hence security. Realistically speaking, it's a false connection since it's a rope with only one end attached. The other end of the rope is swinging freely.
Author joshextreme Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 A lot of people appear to hold on to something, anything, in order to "feel". In holding onto the something, anything, they create a false sense of connection, hence security. Realistically speaking, it's a false connection since it's a rope with only one end attached. The other end of the rope is swinging freely. But like knowing the hard time that say your ex put you through, wouldn't you feel better not caring about them at all? I know I would
VJohnson32 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 I really dont get the "I think people fear the loss of caring more." Makes no sense to me, but thats just me. And you said in the beginning of a break up you care? You basically dont care, you are just in a state of a emotional catastrophe. Unless we have a different definition for "care"
carhill Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Yes, such fear was a legitimate aspect of letting go. Within the care lay perceived connection, hence evidence of something other than being absolutely alone. With the conquering of fear comes freedom. Hope you find yours
VJohnson32 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 But like knowing the hard time that say your ex put you through, wouldn't you feel better not caring about them at all? I know I would You mean the pain you feel ... betrayed, hurt, lost, cheated, confused, back stabbed, abandoned and basically treated like dirt. Well, yeah the pain will go away with time... Ive been there, we all have. You will feel exactly how you felt before you met your ex.
threebyfate Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 But like knowing the hard time that say your ex put you through, wouldn't you feel better not caring about them at all? I know I wouldYou mistake my post. I'm not someone who believes in holding onto smoke and mirrors.
Author joshextreme Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 You mistake my post. I'm not someone who believes in holding onto smoke and mirrors. Then I'm confused?
threebyfate Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Then I'm confused?My post was my opinion about why people hang on for dear life. It doesn't mean I believe in it or do it myself.
2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 (edited) I posted somewhere about something and someone said "I think people fear the loss of caring more." In the beginning of a break up all you do is care care care. But do you ever fear not caring? I know right now I would love to not give 2 ****s about my ex. What do you guys think? I think it was me, I rememeber responding to one of your posts. I was really thinking about my situation and I thought what is it I fear most and the conclusion I came to was that I fear not caring anymore and the context of it was just not caring about the situation anymore. I suppose it is because you have so much still invested in the situation but you are slowly but surely moving away from it, delaying the inevitable where you will one day say "I just do not care anymore". It is just fear of letting go and moving on because your heart is screaming "no just one more chance, one more thread of hope to cling to" and your head is saying "Talk to the hand". Once your head and logic takes over then it will overpower your heart and make it let go. 2011 Edited March 27, 2011 by 2011
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