CaffeineOtis Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 So me and this girl I like started hanging out, but for some reason I can't read her too well. She has been ****ed over by a few guys in the past and has some daddy issues and I don't have much experience with girls with emotional baggage like this. She's definitely a sweet girl, and seems pretty nervous around me and only me. Doesn't seem like the player/slutty type, but who knows. GOOD -Added me to facebook, always likes my statuses -Always up for hanging out, even with her super busy schedule -Always by me at parties, fallows me when I go outside -Pulled the "I'm cold" line and let me put my arm around her -Body language: laughing, smiles, good eye contact, fidgets with clothes phone/hair -Texts me work updates when I'm in town so I know when she can hang -Long conversations in person that she'll try hard to keep going -Offered me gum, applies chapstick frequently BAD -Never texts/IM's me just to talk -Talks about other guys a lot (mostly guy friends, douchebags, or guys she used to like) -Was leaning away from me when we were alone on the couch -Said she "wasn't sure yet" when I asked if this was a mutual liking thing -If I IM with her, sometimes she'll take 5-10 min to respond at random points
runner Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 you're just a friend to her. if she's a bit nervous around you, it could be because she's not sure how you feel about her and is probably dreading having to turn you down if you make a move.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 I think that you are reading waaayyy too much into the lack of IMing. Ask her out for real
codycat Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Hey there, Ask her out on a real date. See what happens then.........
Author CaffeineOtis Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 you're just a friend to her. if she's a bit nervous around you, it could be because she's not sure how you feel about her and is probably dreading having to turn you down if you make a move. Yeah, that's possible I guess... But if she's nervous and dreading that possibility, then why is she so big on hanging out? We've hung out like 4 times so its not like we are super close or anything.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Yeah, that's possible I guess... But if she's nervous and dreading that possibility, then why is she so big on hanging out? We've hung out like 4 times so its not like we are super close or anything. because she knows your safe and wont try anything with her. She could have someone around her that she knows likes her, and she can get attention. The guys she really likes wont give her any attention, but you do. So make a move on her, and after she recoils, stop talking to her.
Author CaffeineOtis Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 because she knows your safe and wont try anything with her. She could have someone around her that she knows likes her, and she can get attention. The guys she really likes wont give her any attention, but you do. So make a move on her, and after she recoils, stop talking to her. The first time I invited her to hang out, how'd she know I was a safe guy then? I came on pretty strong the first time I met her
Macaw Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Some women craves for a stable, male, parental/brotherly figure in their lives - one that they do not want to get romantically involved with. Someone that gives her hope that not all guys are jerks and liars lusting for sex, and insights into the male mind. Sometimes, they might just be tired of going out with guys that are looking at her the entire time as a sex object, and not as a person, so she's taking a time off romantic relationships and just enjoying your friendship for what it is. I can't tell for sure that either one is your case. I can tell you what it doesn't look like, and that is she wanting to become more intimate with you. He probably is confortable with things where they are right now.
Author CaffeineOtis Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 Some women craves for a stable, male, parental/brotherly figure in their lives - one that they do not want to get romantically involved with. Someone that gives her hope that not all guys are jerks and liars lusting for sex, and insights into the male mind. Sometimes, they might just be tired of going out with guys that are looking at her the entire time as a sex object, and not as a person, so she's taking a time off romantic relationships and just enjoying your friendship for what it is. I can't tell for sure that either one is your case. I can tell you what it doesn't look like, and that is she wanting to become more intimate with you. He probably is confortable with things where they are right now. ahhhh this is so confusing to me! lol. Why does she have no problem texting, skyping, IM guys that are just ONLY friends but not me?
Eddie Edirol Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 The first time I invited her to hang out, how'd she know I was a safe guy then? I came on pretty strong the first time I met her Sure you came on pretty strong, but did you make a move right away? Gotta strike while the iron is hot. if not, why didnt you?
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