SKEETERZX Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 I had been dating this girl I met at work for about 2 months. We started off as friends hanging out but eventually started dating. We are total opposites in most things in our lives however we just seemed to click and get along great when we were together. Three weeks ago her best friend from Florida came to town to stay with her. During the beginning of the time her friend was here I would still talk to her pretty much everyday but didn't want to tell her I wanted to hang out with her and take away time with her best friend who lives six hours away. Around a week ago she became very distant and wouldn't really talk to me. So I left it at that and then the next time I saw her at work, I asked her if she wanted to continue dating or what the deal was. She told me that I was cool to hang out with but we were just too far apart and she doesn't think I can understand where she is coming from. So after she told me this, I was aggravated at first but at the end of the day we talked about it a little more and I told her how I felt about the situation and that things seemed to go south only when her friend came into town. She had actually stayed over at my house the night before her friend got here and things were great, so between the last time I saw her and when she made her decision we had not even seen each other which was almost 3 weeks ago. So the next day I am off of work but she's working. She takes a break from work and calls me and asks where I'm at. I tell her I am swapping a day and had to work a weekend. So then she said she just wanted to call and finish talking about why we didn't work and she said her part and I told her again how I felt and that she didn't give it a chance to work but in the end I can't change the way she feels and there's no sense in trying and I'm sorry it didn't work out and we hung up and I thought that was the end of it. About 3 hours later she calls me again on her lunch break just to see what I was doing and to talk etc. and acts like nothing ever happened. So the next day she doesn't work and I do,so I dont see her but she again calls me after work just to say "hi". This is the things she did when we were dating. I just want to ask her what the deal is....she's not the type to come back and say she regrets what she said or wants to try it again even if she did. She's told me when she dates people and it doesn't work out, she cuts all ties and it's pretty much it. Do you think her friend had anything to do with it? Oh and also her friend is now gone and it seems like she's a different person. She told me that her friend HATED her last boyfriend and they had a lot of disagreements about him. Even though I have not met her friend, it just doesn't seem right.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 It seems like she doesnt like you anymore but refuses to tell you the real reason. You need to set some boundaries here, and prepare for her to go away when you do. Tell her if she doesnt tell you the real reason she lost interest in you, she has to stop calling you. if you dont do that, stop answering her calls. Youre not going to get her back by talking to her, women dont move backwards like that once they are turned off to you. It could be something you did, it could be someone else, but she has emotionally checked out with you and then she cas checked in with something or someone else, and you will not get her back. You have to show her you dont need her, thats the only way she will notice. You have lost her forever, so stop talking to her entirely.
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