K.K. Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 I think that's what brings alot of us here to this forum. What seems to cause the most hurt in the long run is not the breaking up in and of itself, but the cold cruel way that some of them do it. Some of them tell you till the last minute that they'll never leave you and the next day you're not even on their agenda of people to talk to. They just leave you hanging... Some of them blame it all on you or even worse tell you that you simply were not good enough..sexy enough exciting enough to keep their interest. Some of them are screwing around behind our backs all the while telling us that they're not causing us to second guess ourselves and go completely crazy. Some of them are simply cowards and never tell you a damned thing. For gods sake... if you're thinking of breaking up with someone who has given you happy memories and good times.. at least have the DECENCY about you to TELL them why. Even if it hurts them. Even if you're dying to know if the grass is greener on the other side. At least TELL them SOMETHING. They may hate you for a minute... but in the long run... in the big scheme of life... they will at LEAST appreciate that you did that. They will not be able to fault you as much for your decisions and they will at least be able to sleep a little better at night. And isn't that what being a human being is all about? Wouldn't you want to be remembered in a good way when you take your last breath here on earth instead of having all those people you ****ed over along the way wanting to spit on your grave? ? Just thinking out loud here... i dunno.
VJohnson32 Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 Unfortunately it doesnt work that way. And this is coming from a person that has done the dumping in the past. I personally dumped a girl twice before at the end she dumped me, lol. But i know what she was going through so thats why I left it alone and never pursued her. Break ups tend to build up over time or its a sudden. Person loses interest due to new developments in their life or feelings have shifted. It seems cold and cruel when someone does that to you but isnt the worst thing in world, have you watched the news lately? Life is cruel and full of surprises and unexpected events. We are what the society is and our emotions and feelings are unstable just like nature. When they break up with you they cant really give you a definitive reason, it just feels right to them. I know you are looking for reason we all are but you have to be on the other side of the relationship to really grasp the idea. Instead of dwelling on why concentrate on when you will find that other person and move on. It isnt as easy as it sounds but makes you think ahead and creates excitement in your life. So many people out there and new places and you are stuck on that one individual. I personally have fallen in love twice in my life time and once it was over i was so anxious and excited to find my next one ... just dont waste emotions on one person, save them for later.
takemedrunkimhome Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 I think that's what brings alot of us here to this forum. What seems to cause the most hurt in the long run is not the breaking up in and of itself, but the cold cruel way that some of them do it. Some of them tell you till the last minute that they'll never leave you and the next day you're not even on their agenda of people to talk to. They just leave you hanging... Some of them blame it all on you or even worse tell you that you simply were not good enough..sexy enough exciting enough to keep their interest. Some of them are screwing around behind our backs all the while telling us that they're not causing us to second guess ourselves and go completely crazy. Some of them are simply cowards and never tell you a damned thing. For gods sake... if you're thinking of breaking up with someone who has given you happy memories and good times.. at least have the DECENCY about you to TELL them why. Even if it hurts them. Even if you're dying to know if the grass is greener on the other side. At least TELL them SOMETHING. They may hate you for a minute... but in the long run... in the big scheme of life... they will at LEAST appreciate that you did that. They will not be able to fault you as much for your decisions and they will at least be able to sleep a little better at night. And isn't that what being a human being is all about? Wouldn't you want to be remembered in a good way when you take your last breath here on earth instead of having all those people you ****ed over along the way wanting to spit on your grave? ? Just thinking out loud here... i dunno. that's really true. mine ended up lying to me the whole time. if i had the balls i'd call her out on all of it and how much she hurt me, but she's really not worth my time to say the least.
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