Sake Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 (edited) I know women detach themselves from a relationship before breaking up but a month after my ex and I broke up (she dumped me) she started dating a 21 year old who is the exact opposite of me. We were together for 3 years and I loved her dearly. Its been 9 months since we broke up 3 days ago and on April 4th it's going to be their 8 month anniversary. The last time I ever made contact with her was when we bumped to each other and I just gave her props (I didn't know what to do) and said bye. That was a month ago, and before that I sent her family a new years card. What I'm asking is how long does a "rebound relationship" really last..and should I even take her back if she ever comes back? or did she grow out of me and moved on. It's weird because I was the one who spread her wings but she ended up flying away. I feel like I'll never be happy without her, even though shes changed and abandoned me completely, I miss her dearly. We were first true loves... Edited March 26, 2011 by Sake
DollyGirl12 Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 It depends, she may stay with him for a very long time. She may not. It's not a question that one can answer with certainty. What you are feeling, like you will never be happy without her, is a very common feeling that many people have. I've had it before, more than once. But, in time, when you are ready to completely let go and heal, you will find someone else. What you have to begin working on is being happy with yourself. When you are happy with yourself, where you are in your life, setting your goals, then when that next woman comes along will be a plus to your life, enhance it, but won't be your whole life.
Mcnulty Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 My ex hit the rebound guy straight after I ended it with her, (reluctantly) That was 19 months ago and she's still with him!! Don't let it eat you up, they may stay together out of pure luck or they may not...no good thinking karma will work it's magic, cos it doesn't always happen...some people will always come out of falling into a barrel of **** smelling of roses! I agree with Dolly, work on you and you will slowly move forward.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 Women dont move backwards when they dump you, because they remember what turned them off about you, so she will never be back. Put that out of your head. Theres tons of women on this board that dump guys after losing attraction, but they NEVER say that they dont move backwards for some reason. Since you were your first loves, you will be happy eventually, it just takes like a year to get over her, and you have to be actively trying. When you start talking to other girls, you will see that there are better personalities out there. Youre young, both of you will change drastically in the next few years. See your ex doesnt count for a rebound relationship, because she dumped you. She lost attraction to you months ago, so she has been ready to start over with no emotional connection to you, she her relationship can go on as long as they want. YOURE the on in the position for the rebound since you are still thinking of her. So if you date some girl while you are thinking of your ex, then you are on the rebound.
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