mortensorchid Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 The other week I met this man online. We had decided to chat on the phone a few days later. I'd posted on these issues before, but I find it a little odd when a person lays it all out on the table in an online profile. For example, I'd seen not one but two men's profiles online where they said their marriage broke up because they had tried to have children, both parties had had surgery and gone through fertility treatments. Call me crazy, but I find said information to be a little too much. But I digress ... This man said that he is living with his mom due to a death in the family (what this has to do with one's living arrangement, I'm not sure). He also writes that he has a son who lives in another state who he has no contact with. Second red flag (not that his past is any of my business, but it's on the profile). Then, yesterday, he asked upon the first time we were talking on the phone if I wanted to meet. I said alright, but he wanted to meet later that night. I said I was busy (even though that wasn't true, I was just playing it safe). Later that same night he was texting asking if I wanted to come over and watch TV. This really gave me pause, thinking that he is not only looking for sex but that he is willing to do to invite a person over while LIVING WITH HIS MOM. I don't think I'm overreacting to this. So just blow him off? I'm not feeling good about this.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 I don't think you are overreacting. It certainly could be possible that he has a living situation with his mom where he could entertain women at home ... but would you want to be one of the women? Mainly, I think that all the stuff he put on his profile which you shared designates him as a bad prospect. Not so much because of the information, but because he though it appropriate to put it on an online dating profile. I certainly hope he had a lot more positive things to put there ... Anyway, I share your concerns, and in general, if a person includes very personal details on their profile, it indicates something wrong.
DollyGirl12 Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 Geez, I'd almost think you were talking about my ex, minus the child part and the state you live in.LOL
Author mortensorchid Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 I've decided to not get involved, this man seems shady if not a bit odd. So I'm going to find something else to do today.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 I think that was a wise decision. Honestly, there are going to be enough men to meet who won't be a good match for you who DON'T have serious issues. Fine guys - just not for you. Why waste any time at all on ones who show a lot of red flags before you even meet them.
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