Unbalanced Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 So this girl I like gives me mixed signals. She returns all my calls and texts sometimes immediately sometimes not. When she returns them half the time she seems to want to be talking to me, half the time not. She's given me no clear sign that shes not interested, but at the same time doesn't really do things to keep me certain that she is interested.I'm not looking to jump right into an exclusive relationship, but I would like to take me and her to new levels to test out the waters a bit, however she gives no signs that she's ready to explore new levels w/ me so I just feel stuck. She's a busy college student, definitely seems to have all her priorities straight and keeps most of them before me. Ex cancelled 2nd date cause she had too much hw. I want to respect that, but at the same time I don't know if its just excuses. I guess I would like to be open with her about where her mind stands, but I'm uncertain about having that conversation w/ her because I don't know exactly what I want either. Nevertheless, I do feel that I give more clear signs of interest towards her than she does towards me. Lol whatss the deall??
fishtaco Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 The deal is this right here you are experiencing, it's called dating. This is just how it is. People do the hot/cold, flip-flop, all the time. And, you can't point your finger at her and say "that's illegal", because she could have simply "changed her mind". That is a valid reason and automatically absolves her of any responsibility. That's not fair? Actually it is, because men can do the exact same thing. And they do. So if you find yourself in an unfair situation, it's because you put yourself there. Anyway, she's playing the ambiguous game. It gives her the most number of options of where to go. You should try it too actually. Quite convenient. The counter strategy, is to go date other women. And I recommend you pick up multidating. If you don't multidate, then you'll have to remain friends with her while you date another. But if you multidate, you can keep her in the ambiguous zone for as long as she wants to stay here. As long as you're not spending too much resources maintaining her. I mean why not? You're not missing any opportunities; you're dating a bunch of other women anyway.
zengirl Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 What do you expect early on? As long as she returns all your calls (not immediately but eventually) and isn't be rude or disrespectful, I wouldn't expect her to be all over spending time with you or anything so early on. Of course, you're not going to be a priority right now. You're some guy she's been on a couple of dates with.
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