Heartbroken30 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 I posted my first ex meet up last week and since then we have maybe text 2 or 3 times very very casually every few days. Just now out of the blue after no contact for 3 days he sent me this "Hey 'a....' are you free for me to call you? Gotta ask you something." Um what do i do?? Do i respond and let him call me or ignore it?? I'm curious as to what he wants to ask me! But at the same time don't want to jump at the chance of talking to him. Anyone?
joshextreme Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 I posted my first ex meet up last week and since then we have maybe text 2 or 3 times very very casually every few days. Just now out of the blue after no contact for 3 days he sent me this "Hey 'a....' are you free for me to call you? Gotta ask you something." Um what do i do?? Do i respond and let him call me or ignore it?? I'm curious as to what he wants to ask me! But at the same time don't want to jump at the chance of talking to him. Anyone? do you want him back?
Little_Bee Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 If you think you can cope with hearing his voice and don't expect that he wants to talk you about coming back together then go for it. However, if you only curious about what he has to say because you hope that it has something to do with him wanting you back, then don't have a phone conversation with him as it would break your heart again if the he actually want to talk about something completely different.
Author Heartbroken30 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Yes I do want him back at some point. I know that if we ever get there it needs to go slowly and be friends first and need to get to know each other all over again. I have learned to accept the break up (he broke up with me) it's been 2 months now...first month was no contact and then slowly he came around. It's just also odd that he wants me to CALL HIM...even when we were together we would normally text or bbm and rarely call only for important things. I think I need to ignore right?
Little_Bee Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Difficult to say being honest. My initial thought would be 'yes, ignore the text' but on the other side you already had contact and hence he actually wants to hear your voice. May the best is to say that you are fairly busy at the moment and to ask him to text you rather then phoning you.
depplover_1980 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Oh ignore him. Why are you even texting him 2/3 times a week? Have you learnt nothing from this pages?
joshextreme Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Difficult to say being honest. My initial thought would be 'yes, ignore the text' but on the other side you already had contact and hence he actually wants to hear your voice. May the best is to say that you are fairly busy at the moment and to ask him to text you rather then phoning you. ask what he wants to talk about first in text. if its not what you want to hear then go NC full throttle
Author Heartbroken30 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Ok but we agreed to be friends and we are actually supposed to meet up and hang out again next week sometime. I wasn't planning on hearing from him till then. So this text came as a shock to be honest. And trust me as cold as he was the first few contacts after the NC stage there is no way he would send this message unless it was really something that he wanted to say or ask or whatever. This took a lot for him to do. He is very stubborn so he wouldn't just get in touch like that if he didn't really want to. I've already set in my mind that I wasn't going to hear from him next week to hang out either. It's been about an hour since he sent the text. I have not responded yet and i'm sure he is wondering why I am not. I just don't want to push him away by not responding especially since we agreed to be friends. I'm pulling my hair out trying to figure out what to do! I know that he won't talk about getting back together I'm pretty sure it's something random but either case he is obviously thinking about me.
Little_Bee Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 If you can cope with talking about random things with him, then tell him that he can call. If you can't cope with hearing his voice then be selfish and think about you and not how he feels if you just ask him in a text what he wants
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