joethomas9 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 My life is getting more confusing by the second, I have liked this girl for about 3 years, and yet, she STILL does not notice me. Honestly i have almost given up on her. I already know that she doesn't like me, at all, so i am probably not even gonna bother her anymore. But still, i do have some feelings for her. And then, it hit me like a speeding bullet, another girl. Elegant and beautiful, shes amazing, i didn't even see it coming. I like her, but i like the first girl, i just don't know who i love anymore. Its more confusing because the first girl is gorgeous, funny, smart. The other girl is all of those things... but much more, its almost like she likes me back. I know you might say just choose the second girl, but i am just not very sure. HELP, i am in more confusion then ever before. P.S. Just talking to one of them won't help, so please don't bother lecturing me about that.
Thedude22 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 If a girl is not interested in you, **** her, especially if you've found a new one. Hell the first girl might just get jealous you're not fawning over her anymore and hit on you for a change. Fawning over one girl is never a good idea, she'll simply look at you as her ego booster to use as she pleases and then throw you away until she needs you again. If you suddenly break that cycle, maybe she'll miss you and she can fawn over you for a change.
MarlyStar Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 ...I have liked this girl for about 3 years, and yet, she STILL does not notice me. Honestly i have almost given up on her. I already know that she doesn't like me, at all, so i am probably not even gonna bother her anymore.... I like her, but i like the first girl, i just don't know who i love anymore. You do not 'love' either girl. If the first girl does not like you and has not paid you any attention for THREE YEARS, there's nothing going on there, no relationship, no knowing each other, no interaction. I don't deny you may feel like you love her, but it's not love. It's infatuation and it's based on a fantasy. You are more likely in love with a fantasy and have attached the fantasy to her, with the feelings following. I don't know how much 'bothering' you've done in the last 3 years with the girl who doesn't notice or like you, but it seems long since time to leave her alone. No 'probably' about it. The second girl you don't love either because you don't know her. You may be in love with the idea of love. How old are you? How many girls have you actually gone out with?
Author joethomas9 Posted March 28, 2011 Author Posted March 28, 2011 I know there is no hope for a girl that hasn't noticed me for 3 years. But actually i do know the second girl, she is really nice and shes really cool, but i always thought i was considered a friend to her. I do realize its not love, however it always makes me feel alittle closer to her if i think of her that way... Yes it does seem pathetic that i have been swooning over a girl for 3 years, but if you were in my position you would understand. Infatuation is the blunt way of putting it, but "like" would probably be a better word. Also i would like to say I'd rather not give away that information, it might be alittle helpful if you really do want to help; though i have the feeling you don't want to help me.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 So, you are trying to decide between two girls, one of whom (according to you) does not, has not (for 3 years!), and will not ever like you? Is there really even a decision to be made? Girl 1 isn't an option if she's not interested.
Author joethomas9 Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 So, you are trying to decide between two girls, one of whom (according to you) does not, has not (for 3 years!), and will not ever like you? Is there really even a decision to be made? Girl 1 isn't an option if she's not interested. Thank you for not being rude... But anyway, you're definitely right, Girl 1 is not an option, at all. She clearly is never going to notice me.
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