C'est La Vie Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 I was talking to a guy for a couple of months, and we got along well. I had an attraction towards him and liked his personality (and he said the same about me, so I guess we will say it was mutual). But I also considered him like a friend, as he did me (supposedly). We hung out a few times, and this past Tuesday we kissed for the first time. It was nice. It felt good. For the past month or so, he has had a tendency to text me every single day - even though we already see each other nearly every day as it is. Yesterday morning, he texted me and said he really wanted to hang out with me more. I said that would be nice, and he said that he wanted to see me before I went into work yesterday. I agreed. Well 6:00pm came around, and it was time for me to go to work - I still hadn't even heard from him. Eventually, I sent him a text: Me: Well thanks for keeping your word. I really appreciate it. Him: Damn, I lost track of time. I'll see you after work, ok? A few hours later, I got off work, only to find that he still hadn't called or text me. I get home and log on to Facebook, and I see that he has updated his status in the past 10 minutes - "Yeah, because I'm Rick James, Bitch." So he's alive. He's not in the hospital, not in jail, nada. The fact that he stood me up isn't what's bothering me so much... it's the fact that he didn't even bother to let me know he wasn't into hanging out. He led me on to believe that we would. I thought, for a split second, that maybe he is a decent human being. But now? He has shown me otherwise. He stood me up TWICE in one day, and didn't even bother to call with an explanation. Ugh! He usually texts me every morning about this time, but of course I haven't heard from him. This kind of sucks for me... because I have to work directly with him on a project over the next few months. He was the one person in the group I spent all of my time talking to and stuff. He was the one I enjoyed talking to. Now what am I going to do when I have to see him? Edit:: For what it's worth, he is 27 years old.
Author C'est La Vie Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 So you work together? Not really work - it's more or less a project. But I guess for the time being we will consider it work, yes.
Survivor12 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 "Me: Well thanks for keeping your word. I really appreciate it. Him: Damn, I lost track of time. I'll see you after work, ok?" Unless you responded to his question ("ok?"), he didn't stand you up after work. As far as the first time, did you have a specific time planned to get together or was it, too, left "up in the air"? I'd give the guy the benefit of the doubt at this point.
Author C'est La Vie Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 "Me: Well thanks for keeping your word. I really appreciate it. Him: Damn, I lost track of time. I'll see you after work, ok?" Unless you responded to his question ("ok?"), he didn't stand you up after work. As far as the first time, did you have a specific time planned to get together or was it, too, left "up in the air"? I'd give the guy the benefit of the doubt at this point. I did respond to that text, and no the previous "hang out" didn't have a specific time set - but he did say that he would see me before I went to work, and he knows I go to work at 6. My gut feelings are telling me he is just trying to screw with my head a little bit. So if he tries talking to me when I see him next, what do I do? I'm going to be so upset, I don't know how I'll be able to bring myself to talk to him. And why hasn't he contacted me this morning to even apologize?
Mrlonelyone Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 He hasn't contacted you because he likely does not think there is anything to contact you about. You know.... don't take this the wrong way. Have you ever no showed on a guy? Have you ever told a friend to do that and thought it was comical? Do you believe in karma? I don't complain about the fade away when it happens to me. I think it sucks. However I did it once and I shouldn't have.
SweetDaphne Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 I agree...did you respond to his second message when he said he'd see you after work? If not - then, I'd assume he thought you weren't interested or still pissed off. At this point, I'd see what's up and attempt to hang out at least one more time. If he flakes on you again, you have your answer and you won't have to wonder about it. I wouldn't make this 'stood up' your final contact with him in regards to getting to know each other better.
Author C'est La Vie Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Again, thanks for the replies you guys. As said, yes I did respond to his second message. I didn't add that in the post because I didn't think it was that important at the time I was writing the original post, but clearly it was. After that, he did not respond to me at all. And have I ever stood a guy up? No. If I ever feel that I'm not that into a guy, or that I might want to "back out" at last minute because I'm not into him, then I will politely reject the date at the time he asks me out. I don't want to accept a date with somebody I'm not fully sure I'm "feeling" if you know what I mean. I don't do this to men - never have - so I don't feel I should be treated that way. An explanation is all I'm asking. But as I'm typing this out... I just received a text from him. It says, "What???" Why is he what-ing me, and not apologizing? Grrr.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Cest it is good that you don't do that to men. You are a person of integrity. The truth is as my parents have said. Young people text and FB too much and talk or meet in person too little. Just talk to him face to face or call him on the phone. Hit dial instead of send this time. Hear his voice. Talk to him.. I mean if you can kiss him you can talk to him right?
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