PLEASE HELP!? Can my boyfriend really have feelings for the other woman?

[Rated R]

The question that I have to ask is could my boyfriend really have feelings for the other woman. From what I know, he met and started dating her a month after we got together (it's been a year now), he has cheated on me with her, and he's had 4 opportunities to leave her alone (they had an arguement and stopped talking), and he hasn't...He hasn't talked to her on the phone since Feb. but I know that she's on his buddy list, and that he sent her an instant message recently to just "check on her."

 

My question is why do you think that he still has her on his buddy list? And if he really wants to work things out with me, why (do you think) that he would initiate contact with her? She doesn't know about me, so do you think that it's possible he's just with me until she is ready to be with him? Could he really have feelings for her?

 

P.S.

 

sorry for re-asking the same question

[Moose]

Hmmmm, good question. I think most guys, me included, like to have their options open. I'm Married now and have been for 16 years. But when I was single I never really tied myself down to one person. If he has feelings for you and they are geniune, he needs to let the other girl know. I don't think that having dialect with her is dangerous unless he doesn't love you. You need to ask him if he has feeling for her and if the answer is no then insist that he gets on the Instant Messenger and let her know about it while you watch him.

[Rated R]

thanx. The problem is that he's told her that he had feelings for her (they were once telling each other that they love each other), then he lied to her about me (instead of telling her that I'm his girlfriend)>

[Moose]

Sounds like you need to break it off with him then. Sorry to say, but there are a lot of better fishes in the sea, ( Sorry the best is taken ).