wild_urge Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I got accepted in university. That is just great, BUT it is going to be pretty expensive, covering all the fees and the cost of the books. This is something I can live with, but there is another thing. It takes 1.5 hours to get to the campus with public transport. Which means, that I should by a car, my time is precious since I have to work. But then, how do I visit him in the summer ? It seems like I'll never be able to get the money to visit him ever again. I don't know whether he's going to get his permanent resident soon and I don't even know if he'll come here right away if he does get the documents, because of money and other issues. My parents will have trouble paying the tuition fees and for the books, so they can't help me. I'm just so sad, I have been doing my best for the past year and a half that we have been separated, I constantly have to put up with an extremely busy schedule, demanding parents and extremely demanding employers. Why do bad things keep accumulating? What do I have to do keep having hope that may be something is going to work out for me ? And of course, he gets irritated, because I am sad all the time. . .
folieadeux Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 First off Wild, congrats on being accepted to university. I know you're sad right now with the prospect of being too busy to schedule visits, but you shouldn't let your concern put a damper on this good news. I think maybe it's still way too early to tell what you'll be able to swing come summertime. Your workload may allow for more room than you're anticipating right now once you get into the swing of things. Maybe your employer will allow you to increase your hours a bit so you can save up some extra cash for your visit. Maybe your boyfriend will be able to come see you. My point with all the maybes is that alot can and will happen between then. Try to relax and enjoy this exciting time. Everything will sort itself out.
Author wild_urge Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Thank you for the kind words, it is true that many things can happen between now and then and I hope that some of them will be positive. I am just really discouraged, because I put a lot of hard work and nothing seems to improve, quite the opposite. I hope that the saying is true: The darkest hour is just before the dawn.
heartshaped Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Maybe he can come visit you instead or pay for some of the cost of your visit? Also, how you looked into any financial aid to help with the cost of school (scholarships, grants, loans, etc.)? I know you are really discouraged, I actually had a day like this a few days ago where I just got sad and discouraged about something that has not even happened in my LDR yet and may not happen. I think that's the worse thing you can do to yourself too. Imagine the worse outcome then make it seem like in your mind it's the only outcome. The two of you have made it this far together and you love each other; the odds are in your favor. Don't let a tremendously good thing (getting into university) put a damper on your love. You'll find a way and even if you do have to go a little longer between visits in order to save up, you'll get there. Trust me.
Els Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 Can't you get a loan on the car or do it in installations? If you buy a really cheap second-hand car you could probably just pay $10/week..
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