Stones28 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I'm in my 40's and my chiropractor is in his 60's. We get along great as patient/doctor, but I'm really attracted to him. Yes, he's married. (So am I) But there is just something about him....I got a haircut recently and he told me it looks really good and "ruffled my hair" and every time he puts the table down, he rubs my back while it's going down. Is this normal? The rubbing of the back? I'm curious about him and I think he's curious about me. Help!
Author Stones28 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Anybody have any advice for me????
Memphis Raines Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 well gee, what kind of advice are you looking for? you are a married woman, he is a married man? You want us to give you some giddy schoolgirl feeling and tell you he is definitely flirting and you should go for it? I don't get it. Maybe you should show your husband this thread you started and see what he thinks.
Author Stones28 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Look....you don't have to throw me down. I was just asking if it was "normal" for a doctor to rub your back. Was he being nice or implying something else? Has anyone else ever had this happen to them by their chiropractor?
aisle_seat Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 You said you're "really attracted to him" and that you're "curious about him" and think he is about you. He's a chiropractor, right? Isn't rubbing your back part of the procedure? Whether it is or not, it's your own feelings you need to examine. Something must be missing in your marriage if you find yourself attracted to this man and want to know his feelings about you. Ask yourself the oft asked rhetorical question, if your husband was going to a female doctor and felt about her as you do about your chiropractor, what would you think? I'd talk to your husband about what may be lacking in your relationship with him.
Author Stones28 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Aisle Seat.....he rubbed my back as the table was going down. Before my adjustment.
ComputerJock Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Would you feel comfortable with him rubbing your back with your husband in the room? I think not. Open up to ypur husband and quite fooling yourself. Your marriage is in trouble and the doctor is taking advantage of you.
Karma24 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 This scenario is gross on several different levels but I digress... Why do you want to know if him rubbing your back is normal or not? If it isn't are you planning to report him for inappropriate conduct? Are you hoping it meaaaaaans something? Just bad all the way around.
aisle_seat Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Stones...I think you've missed the point of my comment. I'm sorry if you're not getting the types of responses you were hoping for, but even emotional cheating is cheating. While you may not be able to control how you feel, you can control what you do about it. If you believe your chiropractor behaved inappropriately, then report him. But the other issue is what you're feeling. If you have any respect at all for your husband, you'll start going to another chiropractor and talk to your husband about what you both can do to make your relationship fulfilling. You asked for advice and that's mine.
Chi townD Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 I'm not there, but I think you might be mis-interupreting what your Chiropractor is doing. Because of your interest in him, you may view this as intimate touching; however, the Chiropractor could be tracking your vertibral column with movement. He could also feel and see if there are any active spasms to the erector spinae muscles or the lat dorsi muscles or the trapezius muscle; completely innocent.
Memphis Raines Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Look....you don't have to throw me down. I was just asking if it was "normal" for a doctor to rub your back. Was he being nice or implying something else? Has anyone else ever had this happen to them by their chiropractor? no, thats not "just asking" if it is normal. nobody starts an account on a site like this just for some run of the mill fleeting curiosity. You are attracted to him and want to get some butterflies if we tell you he is flirting. throw you down? I think you are basically throwing your husband down.
PegNosePete Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Why did you come to an internet forum? Why don't you ask your husband if this guy's flirting with you? Seriously, why not? Scared of what he'll say?
Memphis Raines Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Let say everyone is in agreement and its the concensus that he is flirting. what are you going to do with this information? you going to keep asking more questions to dig in deeper to give you some good feeling? Or are you going to tell us that was the answer you are looking for and that be the end of it?
Woman In Blue Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Well gosh - there's just NOTHING hotter than a smarmy married senior citizen acting inappropriately by rubbing your back and tousling your hair when you're there for a medical procedure. He sounds hot - can you give me his name so I can go get a cheap thrill, too? Golly, thanks!
ComputerJock Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 You crack me up and give a boost when I need it, I'm a senior citizen and can see I went into the wrong field. She should tell her husband, I am sure he would get a laugh out of it as he kicks her sorry ass out the door and to the curb with the rest of the garbage.
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