CharleyT Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Hey everyone My boyfriend has been working in France since 5th of December and so far i've been relatively ok I mean I had a bit of a breakdown through December and some hiccups but we've always been good Still going strong but I'm finding it harder and harder to get through a day! Only a month left since he comes back on the 28th of April but I was wondering if any of you have any coping mechanisms? What do you do to make yourself feel better on those down days? How do you make yourself wake and up and feel happy again? I just need to survive another month!! Thank you guys! Love, xxx
folieadeux Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Consider yourself lucky you only have a month to wait and that your distance is temporary. Alot of us on here (myself included) don't have that luxury at present date. Between visits, staying busy with life in general keeps me going as well as planning for the future.
hoping2heal Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Hey everyone My boyfriend has been working in France since 5th of December and so far i've been relatively ok I mean I had a bit of a breakdown through December and some hiccups but we've always been good Still going strong but I'm finding it harder and harder to get through a day! Only a month left since he comes back on the 28th of April but I was wondering if any of you have any coping mechanisms? What do you do to make yourself feel better on those down days? How do you make yourself wake and up and feel happy again? I just need to survive another month!! Thank you guys! Love, xxx The thing that has gotten me through is continuing to live and enjoy my life here. I am a college student, I work, and I enjoy myself here. We are both the world to one another but we would just implode if we did not each continue to be ourselves and live our lives during this time apart. We are in contact daily and do things to have our own version of dates, etc. however we both have lots of things to do and we get on with those things. Neither of us sits by our phones or computers waiting on the other. We both keep eachother pretty informed if we have other obligations or plans and will not be around, etc. One thing I have done recently is given my room a total makeover. I got an awesome, brand new plush bed and have been redoing to make it so luxurious and relaxing. I pamper myself and work hard and at the end of the day he is the best part about everything. You just really need to find a way to make your life apart fun and enjoyable and productive while you are apart. That is really what has worked for me.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 i don't entertain negative thoughts in my head cuz it affects the relationship and eventually kills it. i have plenty of distractions so i can keep myself busy. those are the things i also enjoy doing even before we met. i just look forward to each day cuz that means we'd be together for good soon.
Els Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 A hobby/passion, and regular phone talks worked for me for 2 years.
HeavenOrHell Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 I get on with my life here and don't sit around pining for him
aerogurl87 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 My vice was always video games, the Sims3 in particular. I'd start to miss my boyfriend (which led to crying and slight depression) and then I'd pop my game in and immerse myself into either building something or wreaking havoc on my sims lives for my entertainment. But that's just me.
folieadeux Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 My vice was always video games, the Sims3 in particular. I'd start to miss my boyfriend (which led to crying and slight depression) and then I'd pop my game in and immerse myself into either building something or wreaking havoc on my sims lives for my entertainment. But that's just me. Hahaha that's awesome -- my boyfriend just got Sims 3 and we made little versions of each other.
walkingwithhim Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 I have started playing trivia with a group of friends and going out every time I'm invited to keep myself from thinking about it. BUT - I will say, you should be happy he's "working in France" instead of deployed to Afghanistan (which is what I'm dealing with) at least you can communicate on your terms as much as you like without worry.
aerogurl87 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Hahaha that's awesome -- my boyfriend just got Sims 3 and we made little versions of each other. Haha, I am working on making little versions of my boyfriend and I right now. I told him that I'm gonna add a little nursery to the house I build for them since I have to wait a few years before we have kids of our own.
SxB Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Hey everyone My boyfriend has been working in France since 5th of December and so far i've been relatively ok I mean I had a bit of a breakdown through December and some hiccups but we've always been good Still going strong but I'm finding it harder and harder to get through a day! Only a month left since he comes back on the 28th of April but I was wondering if any of you have any coping mechanisms? What do you do to make yourself feel better on those down days? How do you make yourself wake and up and feel happy again? I just need to survive another month!! Thank you guys! Love, xxx You remind yourself that he will be back and he is already yours, and there is isn't anything to worry about, and take it day at a time. You focus on other aspects of your Life. You realize there will be many times he won't be around, but the appreciation of being with him is good enough, that is something that never leaves. Be happy for what you have, it's not a sad thing just because the temporary conditions say you both can't psychically be near one another right now.
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