brown03 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Do abortions make it hard for the women to look at the father of that kid after? Will this abortion change how she looks at me at all and can we get past that? My girlfriend and I are taking a break to figure everything out and to let her heal and stuff and she is afraid of evreything changing after because it will make her see me differently. Is this true?
desertIslandCactus Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 (edited) Abortion is wrong regardless, in my opinion. Edited March 26, 2011 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Breayanna Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 This decision is a very difficult one to make and I am hoping you have many supportive allies to help you. It is possible that having the abortion will change how you view each other. How you make it through will depend on your values and beliefs, your reasoning, how much you processed this decision, and whether it was really what you both wanted. Having an abortion changes life as you know it, just as having a baby changes your life as well. Take your time, breathe, and seek information about all your options. Talk about it with trusted friends and family if you have them. Sit quietly with each option and express your feelings about it. Trust yourselves to come up with the decision that is best for you. Good luck to you both and remember to breathe.
Saphira Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 it can in fact change the way you look at someone. Every time you look at each other you will be reminded of the little child she once had growing in her. Some people even begin to resent that decision. May i ask why you both chose this decision? was it a mutual decision? was ither of you pushed into making that decision? if one of you were pushed then one will definitely see the other differently because they didnt want that to happen in the first place and one could start hating the other. is having the baby out of the option?
Author brown03 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Yeah its not in the cards. She just had her baby die at birth by cord wrapping around his neck. And then 3 weeks later her boyfriend left her. And its only been 5 months since it happened. She is not emotionally ready for this and feels she can't give her her all cause she is still dealing with everything. She is very scared bit knows she doesn't want this baby. And no i have never told her to do Ann abortion i told her i wanted it and tried to get her to feel better about it but when we found out that we were do right near the date of her last it was set and i can tell ahe really doesn't want this. So i told her i will support her 100% in it all. What else can i do take it so this doesn't change thongs between us we were stupid but i don't want to lose her to. Were taking a break well she deals with it and the death of her baby and i told her I'll give her the space and time. And as of now it seems like we will get back together but ahe said im just afraid things won't be the same and i won't see you romantically anymore. Please help i dont want that to happen but i can't so anything about her keeping it.
Saphira Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 well i dont understand why she wouldnt see you romantically anymore if it is HER who wants the abortion. maybe she fears you wont look at her the same because you wanted it. IDK maybe you can talk to her. reassure her that you will always look at her the same way. I mean, there is not much YOU can do if SHE is the one going to have the problem. Just let her have that space to heal and then when she is ready show her that she still means the same to you. I hope everything works out.
desertIslandCactus Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 i can't so anything about her keeping it. She has already lost a baby. Killing this one will not insure stability of any kind. Just adds to the burdens and tragedies.
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