JohnM Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I must have ignored it or just smoothed it over but It's an issue now I'm travelling with my friend. She talks a lot, a real chatterbox which is usually okay when its just us as its not too bad. But we are currently stopping off on farms to stay for a week or two. When we meet the owners etc I find myself always crowded out. She always commands the conversation, and doesn't let up. Therefore when a question in general is asked she jumps on it and typically starts chatting away and talking for me. I'm capable of talking for myself, but I'm laid back and generally listen and offer points every now and then. It's just that on the occasion I choose to want to there is never air time, if you understand. I don't like to interrupt, and that's what I would have to do. Why do some people find the need to dominate a conversation in a group, as if they can't stop themselves, its like she is bloody addicted to talking. I tried to chime in with a point earlier and she decided to argue with me stating something as simple as saying that there were more cupboards for storage than she was suggesting. A simple point but she chose to make it seem as if I was foolish to suggest so and was wrong. It's not just today, but as every day passes I feel like I may as well just sit in silence as It's just easier than trying to fight my way into conversation. I just don't know. I need space to talk that's all..
nunyanunya Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Sit in silence, wait it out, and then never invite her on a road trip again.
Author JohnM Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Alas, this is no road trip. This is 6-10 months to go territory.
SummersEve Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 Probably you would get different advice based on the particulars of your situation. I guess there are three choices: Live with it, get away from her, or talk to her and try to work it out. If she is accepting of your point of view, maybe make a signal or word you will say when she is overstepping and see if it works, if she will shut up on request. There are probably different motives for motor-mouth, anything from just a habit she falls into when she's nervous to a deep-seated need to control everything at all times. She really sounds annoying. Good luck.
nunyanunya Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 Alas, this is no road trip. This is 6-10 months to go territory. A friend once came back from a trip where she brought a friend who was a horrible guest to the host. She behaved very poorly and ruined part of the trip all by herself as she was dependent on the host for transportation. My friend and her host made up for it as best they could after she left, but the lesson I learned from it was that its not worth it. As earlier stated, more specific advice can be given based on your situation (eg, how long your trip will take, does she absolutely need to come with you, etc) But I feel the general leaning will be to not let this person ruin a trip for you if you can sorely help it. Responses range from saying anything you need to, to situation specific discussion. Good luck!
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