shawn923 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Just wondering... Lets say I was in NC for about a 10 days, and we broke up 2 months ago. and still hurting from the break up. What if she BEGS me back, but ONLY to be a friend... So i gave in... added her back on fb. But she shows signs of still wanting the relationship. For example, jealousy, being nosey, etc. I told her straight up, u said u were never gonna date me again. So why do u wanna be my friend? We ended it with we were gonna start with a clean slate as friends... I continued to text her thru-out the day. What does the dumpee do in this situation? Is it possible that with this break of NC, that i can "win" her back again? Or is she simply dropping breadcrumbs, and enjoys teasing the broken hearted?? Should i try one last time to go on a date or something? I mean why did she come back all of a sudden, when i KNOW she missed me? But when i bring up the relationship, it pisses her off. Neither of us are dating at all since the breakup. Its as if she WANTS the relationship, but she just wants me to stop acting thirsty and WANTING it to happen. Like stop talking about it, everything. Its as if shes waiting for me to calm down so SHE can come to me when shes ready... BUT its soooo hard to avoid that cuz thats all thats on my mind when it comes to her, I deserve what we had before! Or maybe im just being naive and she just wanted to know if i had found somebody yet... HELP!
marqueemoon4 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 You already know what everyone is going to say.. breaking NC obviously isn't a good thing, esp if you still have feelings for her which you do. Being a friend to this girl will cause you nothing but pain at this point.
Author shawn923 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 I had to put my foot down... i was beginning to hurt already. i sent her a pretty long text. It basically said: "u dont understand i feel, u really dont... if u cant EVER be in a relationship with me again, then i cant EVER be your friend. simple as that... we clearly had 2 totally different intrepretations of our relationship. It is what it is. i deserve NO LESS than what we had before. and since u cant give me that, im done" she replied "i was busy when u text me but whatever thats ur decision" and i didnt text back. Initiating NC now. she is again erased off fb... Did i handle this correctly? Was it right or wrong, or indifferent that i kinda ANNOUNCED nc?
Layzie89 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 You told her how you felt and where you stand. You did good shawn. Consider this your closure and never look back.
DLFresh Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 You did the right thing...don't feel bad about letting her know your boundaries...The main thing that stuck out for me from her text was "whatever" - that really sums it up - let her go, you will find someone better for you that will make you happier...I PROMISE it will happen
Author shawn923 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Thanks yall. Letting me know I did the right thing means A LOT
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