Newwaveofgoodtidings Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 My husband and I are "separated" but he is staying with me for now. He has been unfaithful many times but we decided to give this one last shot. I thought that I was ready to do this but it turns out that having him in bed with me is really uncomfortable. My stomach gets that sick feeling and I want to sleep on the couch to avoid it. He isn't the "listen to my feelings" type of guy. Is there any way to not have him be in the same bed or touching me without having to do a feelings talk or just acting really cold or pushing him away?
carhill Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Since you've made the choice to not divorce and allow a serial cheater to remain in the marital home, I'd say, if you want separate beds, it's up to you to make that happen. No fanfare, no big drama, no 'feelings', merely simple communication. 'Since we're separated and I don't feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed, I'm going to sleep in the other bedroom/on the sofa/whatever'. Then, do it. Since you're new here, can you explain the parameters of your 'separation' and what your plan of action is to 'give it one last shot'? Any background would be helpful.
Author Newwaveofgoodtidings Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Thank you, we have been in different beds for awhile now and things feel better.
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