Mme. Chaucer Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 No, you dont understand. You have to be a man or at least have three times higher testosterone level than you do right now in order for you to understand a 'healthy' man's sexual drive. So what? Because a person has a high sex drive should have no bearing upon how he or she treats other people. If you want a man who is not obsessed with sex, the solution is simple. Find a man with low sex hormones. Or, if you would like to be with a man who does not behave like a rutting creature, seek one who has basic good manners and reasonable social skills. If he has a high sex drive, and you hit it off with him ... more fun for you, later! OP, you have connected with a bunch of losers, but in answer to your question: No, they are not all like that.
Mr.Cairo Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 So what? Because a person has a high sex drive should have no bearing upon how he or she treats other people. Or, if you would like to be with a man who does not behave like a rutting creature, seek one who has basic good manners and reasonable social skills. If he has a high sex drive, and you hit it off with him ... more fun for you, later! OP, you have connected with a bunch of losers, but in answer to your question: No, they are not all like that. Yap, guys like this are more likely to have stds because they don't control their desires and will sleep everything with a pair of breasts. This is the type of guy you, op, should stay away. Guys like this can't even have a conversation with a woman. Notice how they'd also make terrible partners. 'Oh, I slept with your sister 'cause of my high levels of T'
Author spiderowl Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Stop going online, most of those guys, like Mr Cairo said, are creeps. They dont know how to deal with women in real life, and dont want a real relationship - thats why they are there. You have to start meeting people in person, OUTSIDE your social circle. Thanks to all for your comments. It's useful to get different perspectives. I'm coming down on the side of those who think a guy should be restrained and in control. After all, if he's not in control online when chatting to a woman, what would he be like in real life? Pretty scary thought that. By the way, I'm not young, but over 50. I think guys my age should really know better. I am beginning to feel it's hopeless seeking a good guy online. I'm finding a mixture of creeps and those who struggle to communicate in English make up about 75% of those online. The rest must be inundated with messages from women. What guys seem to forget is that self-control is attractive and a sign of a mature guy. I've told him I'm don't want to communicate any more. He is just self-serving and cares nothing about me. There is the faint possibility that we may cross paths in our small town as we go to some of the same places. That would be weird and I hope he isn't unpleasant to me.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Many men while dating want to get sex as quick as possible. They could go about it in a better way though.
Stung Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 OP, I ran into a lot of this when I was trying online dating, too. I just disabled the chat programs on those sites, and only paid attention to the men who emailed me, particularly those who sent real letters that showed they had paid attention to my profile and were interested in actual conversation. BTW, after over a year of slogging through a lot of muck, I did make a couple of good friends AND met my wonderful husband through online dating. It can work out well.
pj1970 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I appreciate your comments and that the guys may be being as restrained as they feel they can be. I also agree that they are probably heavily influenced by internet porn. Are you also saying there is no way I should meet these guys because if they can't behave online they would be worse in public? well, I could say that the longer you drag out an anonymous online-only "relationship" with a guy, the more prone he could be to consider this relationship of a cybersex type of thing guess what, people in person aren't the same as they are in an anonymous-ish online persona I'm sure you knew that I think computers more and more are becoming unhealthy compensatory mechanisms for psychological release people do the unimaginable on a daily basis on computers they would find incomprehensible in real life - just look at any Sega urban warfare shooter game to see this a few unfortunately exist, but everyone wielding a massive automatic firearm gunning down innocent people in a video game does not do the same thing in real life
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