mortensorchid Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I exchanged all of 1 emails with someone, is he giving me the brush off? It reads like it to me. Here's how it went: Him : Hi. Me: Hello ____, sorry we did not connect yesterday, but thank you for your email the other day. Just firing off a quick message to let you know that I did read it, and am acknowledging you. I liked the fact that you describe yourself as a broad person as well, I am in a constant mode of change myself. Must dash in a bit, have a wonderful day if you haven't already and chat soon! Best, Me Him: No worries. I too seem to be always in a mode of change. Its a good way to grow and become a better person. I have a ton of intrest and love to learn about the world and about diffrent people. Good luck in your search (His name) Now don't get me wrong, I'm not offended by any means. But I don't think I'm going to bother replying. If he wanted to continue he would have ended it with "hope to chat soon" or something, right? Ah well.
spiderowl Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Yes, I think he's saying goodbye. Whether it's because he's not interested or because he thinks you were giving him the brush-off, I don't know. There doesn't seem to be anywhere you can go from there, unless you want to try to communicate with him once more to say something more positive and encouraging? You could try that and see what the response is. If it's still similar, then I'd give up on him.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 During my online dating days, that was exactly the line I used to (hopefully) let someone know that I was not interested: "Good luck on your search." Don't take it personally!
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 He brushed you off..Nicely. Don't reply back.
GivenUp0083 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 During my online dating days, that was exactly the line I used to (hopefully) let someone know that I was not interested: "Good luck on your search." Don't take it personally! I never liked that line "good luck on your search". I know people mean well by it, but it sounds like they're talking down to you, as if you're searching SO HARD to find someone and they aren't....maybe it's just me. I just say I wish you the best of luck. Sounds little more even leveled.
irc333 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Actually, it's more of a turn-off when "Good luck in your search" is IN the conclusion of their online dating profile. As if the people emailing her is particpating in the MegaMillion Lottery. I never liked that line "good luck on your search". I know people mean well by it, but it sounds like they're talking down to you, as if you're searching SO HARD to find someone and they aren't....maybe it's just me. I just say I wish you the best of luck. Sounds little more even leveled.
Andy_K Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 To be honest, your response sounded more like a "thanks for writing" than an "I'd like to get to know you more" email. If he's sent out a dozen messages and got four responses, chance are they're showing more interest than you and he'll put more effort into responding to them. If you're interested in someone, *always* ask a question in your message. It gives them something to talk about and shows you want to know things about them.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Wait, so he initiated contact, then brushed you off? That's kind of weird. Something about your message must have turned him off. It did sound a little bit stiff - like an e-mail I'd send to a co-worker or fellow professional - rather than a potential date. ;]
Dlyrica Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Honestly, when I read your response I thought that YOU were the one brushing him off. You might have confused him too?
ReturnToSender Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Honestly, when I read your response I thought that YOU were the one brushing him off. You might have confused him too? Yes, I agree with the last two posts that in reading your initial email, it seemed like you were a bit stiff. If I got an email like that, I would have taken it to mean you didnt want to seem impolite by not replying, but not interested in taking things further. Just in case, I would email again something friendly and a lot more relaxed and open..I also agree with asking a leading question to give him a reason to respond. If he replies, youre in...if he doesnt, then hes not interested.
Art_Critic Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Good luck in your search (His name) Of course it is a brush off... The other phrase one might be used is "Take Care"
Crazy Magnet Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Yep. The infamous good luck in your search line. I've used it before and that's exactly what I mean by it. Your initial email did send mixed signals. You could always try again if you want but only if you are over the top interested in the guy.
GivenUp0083 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Actually, it's more of a turn-off when "Good luck in your search" is IN the conclusion of their online dating profile. As if the people emailing her is particpating in the MegaMillion Lottery. Never seen those words in the profile.
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