PelicanPete Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Well, I recently reconnected with a girl that I was very close with when we were kids, but grew apart as we aged. Always had a crush on her and now that we are adults I decided to take action and asked her out for coffee. She lives in a different city but I said I was going to be in the area. Things went great, she insisted on paying because I made the trip to see her and we talked and connected very well. She had a lot of questions for me which that she kind of went through as a list almost sounding rehearsed which I thought was cute. When we were finished coffee we went for a walk and talked some more, I had her laughing and smiling the whole time and we were giving our own opinions on growing up in our hometown. I was pleased to find out when her lease runs out in a month shes moving to my city! At the end of our walk we arrived at her house, and I kind of put her on the spot and asked her out for dinner. She said she really wanted to go but she had a test the next day that she really needed to study for. I told her that was fine and she said that I could take her out next time she comes to my city. She gave me a big hug and I left. I waited about 24 hours to send her a message saying that I had a great time and that my offer still stands about taking her out for dinner. She replied two days later saying that she also had fun, and she said that she isn't going to have too much time the next few weeks because of finals and work, but what about when she comes back to my city. I dont know if that means wait until she moves back, or if she is going to be in the area sometime soon. She never gave a solid day so does that mean she isn't interested? Or is she wanting to wait to start a relationship until she moves back? I could use some opinions on this. Thanks in advance
Eddie Edirol Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Nope, shes not interested. No matter how busy someone is, they will make time if they are really interested in someone. They cant wait to see you again. What she is doing is setting you up for the friend zone. Thats why she can wait to see you when she moves. Dont chase her anymore. You want her to be 100% interested. You can try again when she comes to town, but assume that she isnt really interested and that she wants to friend zone you, or just be polite. You dont even know when she is moving, but no matter how long it is, she probably will give other excuses when she moves to you town.
Author PelicanPete Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Thanks Eddie, I had a feeling I was getting friend zoned. I'll lay off a bit and if I do get another chance I'll try to show her a different side of me. Any other opinions or ideas are still welcome
GivenUp0083 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Dude, that doesn't mean anything, everyone is different. The only real way to know if a girl is interested is to ask her on a date, or ask her straight up "hey, are you interested in seeing me?" You'd be surprised how simple things are if you just ask people instead of trying analyze every action.
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