mirage12 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 So I met a girl about a month ago and we've hung out 4 times over the period. We connect really well and I'm able to vibe with her really easily. I'm definitely interested in her/think she's really cute but I have thus far failed to make a move on her. Two nights ago, she came over my house and hung out there for 2 hours and we went to get dinner afterward. I had every intention of making the move, but somehow failed miserably. I haven't had this kind of nervousness/awkwardness around a girl in a long, long time. I think she's feeling it because she gives me hints by saying things like how a month ago she didn't even know I existed/talking about a lot of things she wants to do together in the future, but for some reason this isn't helping me. She also recognizes that I get kind of nervous around her (I'm generally a very social, non-awkward type), and even asked me if I was nervous to have her over my house/made a joke about me having an awkward moment. Now after kicking myself for this miserable failure, I've tried seeing if she wants to grab a drink or hang out this weekend, but she may have a friend coming into town and she's gone all of next week on business. Why am I having this kind of nervousness/how do I get over it? What should I do if we don't hang out before she leaves and I don't see her for 2 weeks?
veggirl Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 You should ask her on a proper date. It sounds like she is giving you positive signals, and you are going to risk getting yourself so worked up that you don't ever actually go for it! If you don't see her before she leaves, call her and ask her for a date when she gets back. A real date, not a "hang out" or "grabbing a drink"--perhaps you'd be more comfortable in a defined date situation!
spiderowl Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 (edited) If you ask her on a date or to do a date-like thing, like go for a meal in a nice, romantic place, then she will get the message that you are interested in more than friendship. Presuming you get the date, then when you are with her, take an opportunity to reach for her hand. It's a small thing, and not necessarily sexual, but it creates contact and it's not a great step from there to putting your arm round her. You can take her hand to help her up or down steps, in and out of the car/taxi/bus, to guide her to her seat. If she's happy to stay holding hands for a short while this is a good sign. You could also brush her hair from her face or admire a pretty necklace. Small gestures like this, during which you touch her, will let her know you are interested romantically and sexually, while still giving you an out if she doesn't respond happily. If she seems happy and comfortable, make sure you move to be closer and also in a playful, fun way. The aim is for you both to be comfortable, close and having fun, without there being any of those awkward 'making a move' moments. Good luck! Edited March 24, 2011 by spiderowl
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