irc333 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I read in an article, that if a man's married, and his woman cheats on him, he has more of a tendency to go into a major rage than if he would if he were just dating her. I hear about husbands slicing car tires, to out and out beating the crap till the guy was unconsious, bloody, due to the affair that occured. (This was more prominent when soldiers came home from the Middle East) Apparently there IS a difference in marriage and just "being in a relationship', and it was said that this was due to the fact this being a major blow to a man's ego. That even a man is LESS forgiving of an affair more so than the woman. Is there any truth to this?
TheBigQuestion Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I'd mercilessly beat the crap out of any guy a woman was cheating on me with, dating OR married. I'd also severely damage the property of said woman, and find ways to humiliate her and expose her for the rotten cheating whore she is. I wouldn't care about legal ramifications either. What I've learned over the years is that when I'm pushed far enough (which is EXTREMELY rare, mind you), if I feel slighted or betrayed enough, I'm far more reckless than the average person and will react accordingly. I feel sorry for any future girlfriend who cheats on me, and the guy she cheats on me with.
Woggle Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 The way I see it is that if a find my wife with another man is she is his problem now. A cheating woman is not worth catching an assault charge.
TaurusTerp Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Never thought this made sense. If she weren't ****ing him, she'd be ****ing someone else. No point getting mad at the guy.
Ginger Beer Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I'd beat up the other man and also beat up my wife. I don't care.
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 Exactly, it would just give you jail time, and a record that stays with you for the rest of your life. Never thought this made sense. If she weren't ****ing him, she'd be ****ing someone else. No point getting mad at the guy.
Woggle Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I'd beat up the other man and also beat up my wife. I don't care. Then she can go around playing the victim and you will be a convicted batterer. Simply leaving and living your life is the best revenge because women like that can't stand when they lose that power over a man.
Stung Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Apparently there IS a difference in marriage and just "being in a relationship', and it was said that this was due to the fact this being a major blow to a man's ego. I do believe that there's a difference between marriage and other relationships, but that's my POV and that's why I am married. I think the significance of marriage is up to each couple's perspective; I have friends who have been together happily for years without marrying, and I don't consider their relationship 'less than' mine because I know marriage is not significant to them and they have made their relationship what they want it to be. I've never cheated on my husband or on any of my boyfriends so I couldn't say what their respective rage levels would be. I know my husband considers it significant that he is my husband and not just my boyfriend, and he strongly believes in our exclusivity.
utterer of lies Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Apparently there IS a difference in marriage and just "being in a relationship', and it was said that this was due to the fact this being a major blow to a man's ego. That even a man is LESS forgiving of an affair more so than the woman. Is there any truth to this? I'm not sure that it's just about the blow to the ego. It's a very rational reaction. A married man has much more invested in the woman, therefore her cheating harms him more, which explains a stronger reaction.
phineas Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 The way I see it is that if a find my wife with another man is she is his problem now. A cheating woman is not worth catching an assault charge. Amen brother. If it wasn't that guy, it would of been someone else.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Amen brother. If it wasn't that guy, it would of been someone else. I didn't get violent when I caught my wife with another man and I am doing great while she is in prison. That is the best way a betrayed man can get revenge because these women hate when a man moves on fully without them. Success is the best revenge.
TheBigQuestion Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Amen brother. If it wasn't that guy, it would of been someone else. Sure, it could have been someone else. However, if the guy is knowingly being "the other guy," I say he deserves to be knocked unconscious at my hands. If you don't want a black eye and a fat lip, don't violate the sanctity of my romantic relationship. Additionally, this notion that I'd be a convicted batterer is nonsense. Most physical altercations simply do not result in criminal charges being pressed. I graduated college two years ago. During those years, the amount of fights I'd witnessed and heard of is simply off the charts. I can only think of one that resulted in any sort of criminal charge.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I have been in plenty of fights myself but a cheating woman will not hesitate to do anything to ruin your life. They are out to destroy your very being. Plus she probably gets off on seeing two men fight over her. Doing well without her is more like slowly twisting the knife and there is nothing she will be able to do about it.
TheBigQuestion Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I have been in plenty of fights myself but a cheating woman will not hesitate to do anything to ruin your life. They are out to destroy your very being. Plus she probably gets off on seeing two men fight over her. Doing well without her is more like slowly twisting the knife and there is nothing she will be able to do about it. True that. This is only speculation. I've never been cheated on (that I know of) but I imagine it COULD add to the very short list of things that put me over the edge and make me apt to snap like that.
thatdog Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I think there is also the matter of trying to (consciously or unconsciously) redirect the rage felt towards your partner to somewhere appropriate/socially acceptable. Most guys are raised to believe that one of the worst things a guy can do is hit a woman. When I found out my gf hadf been with another guy I felt a huge amount of anger at both of them, but being around her I felt helpless cos I couldn't do anything. So I focused pretty much ALL my anger on the other guy since it seemed more appropriate. (that said I eventually did neither. But it took a sload of willpower.)
TaurusTerp Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Sure, it could have been someone else. However, if the guy is knowingly being "the other guy," I say he deserves to be knocked unconscious at my hands. If you don't want a black eye and a fat lip, don't violate the sanctity of my romantic relationship. Additionally, this notion that I'd be a convicted batterer is nonsense. Most physical altercations simply do not result in criminal charges being pressed. I graduated college two years ago. During those years, the amount of fights I'd witnessed and heard of is simply off the charts. I can only think of one that resulted in any sort of criminal charge. And what about the one arrest? Felony conviction, can't get a job, a few years in prison? And for what? Dude you beat up is still probably giving it to your woman while Bubba gives it to you. There are better ways to exact vengeance, anyhow.
Stung Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I'm not sure that it's just about the blow to the ego. It's a very rational reaction. A married man has much more invested in the woman, therefore her cheating harms him more, which explains a stronger reaction. Agreed. I don't see how it's just a stronger ego blow, not to somebody who believes in his marriage and the world he's created within it.
threebyfate Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Not sure if it has anything to do with ego but it might. Even as a woman when my first husband cheated on me, I went into an ice cold rage. Although I wanted to kick the crap out of the big, fat blonde bimbo, it wasn't worth getting an assault charge. So I found a way to ruin her life without needing to break the law. It was and still is most satisfying with no regrets or remorse for doing so. I don't hate her or the ex anymore. Just glad I got my own back.
Stung Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 To clarify, I'm not saying it has NOTHING to do with ego, I just don't believe an increase reaction level has EVERYTHING to do with ego. I would also completely lose my sh*t if I found out my husband was straying, and it wouldn't be pretty.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Ego is a part of it but that works for both men and women. If a woman catches her husband cheating are you going to tell me it doesn't make her feel horrible?
Stung Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Ego is a part of it but that works for both men and women. If a woman catches her husband cheating are you going to tell me it doesn't make her feel horrible? Uh, no, I don't think anybody's going to tell you that. In fact, if you read again, the two female posters directly above this comment both explicitly said it would/did make her feel horrible.
thatdog Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 So I found a way to ruin her life without needing to break the law. It was and still is most satisfying with no regrets or remorse for doing so. I don't hate her or the ex anymore. Just glad I got my own back. Do tell. I think I really need a way to vent, and i'm pushing myself pretty hard to not use my fists to do it.
threebyfate Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Do tell. I think I really need a way to vent, and i'm pushing myself pretty hard to not use my fists to do it.The OW was married. Note the past tense? Made the ex-husband arrange a meeting between the three of us, even though he'd already thrown her under the bus. I convinced her that I would tell her husband so she went running off and confessed to him herself. He did some snooping and contacted me. I gave him the evidence that a PI had collected on the ex-husband and the OW. The two went through a vicious divorce and custody battle. After that, I stopped caring enough to want to know and told people not to tell me anything. She did it to herself and I got the satisfaction. What goes around comes around, y'know?
ascendotum Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 funny I thought about similar to this just readings Frisky's post about him banging his ex who was knocking on his door for more post breakup. Yep some guys go pyscho. I have heard stories of other being put in hospital for months, or other incidents where the infringed guy turns up with his mates to have them also assist in the beat down. In the incidents that have been retold to me the guys have admitted they did not know or care if the other guy knew whether he was scewing around with an attached woman or not. Too bad if the guy didn't, they now have permanent injuries. What makes me shake my head in some of these cases is that the guy stays with the cheating bitch. Its like they totally blame the other guy, and to think otherwise would have them contemplate the possibility that they didn't measure up and their missus had to seek out another guy.
thatdog Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 funny I thought about similar to this just readings Frisky's post about him banging his ex who was knocking on his door for more post breakup. Yep some guys go pyscho. I have heard stories of other being put in hospital for months, or other incidents where the infringed guy turns up with his mates to have them also assist in the beat down. In the incidents that have been retold to me the guys have admitted they did not know or care if the other guy knew whether he was scewing around with an attached woman or not. Too bad if the guy didn't, they now have permanent injuries. I am ashamed to admit I have been like this but managed to cool down before I did something I regretted. I did actually have the cricket bat and was in the car headed to his place though... When that rage builds up you really want to lash out at someone for the hurt you've been caused and the OM is the only person you can reasonably blame. What makes me shake my head in some of these cases is that the guy stays with the cheating bitch. Its like they totally blame the other guy, and to think otherwise would have them contemplate the possibility that they didn't measure up and their missus had to seek out another guy. It's not really THAT strange. think about it. If your best friend slighted you, i think you would be likely to let it slide if it wasnt a big deal and if it was you would suffer a rift in your friendship and proly get kinda angry, but your FIRST reaction would probably be to wonder why the hell they did that and see if there was some justifyable reason. now if the same slight was done by a complete stranger, then you wouldnt think about the good points of that persons personality or whatever (you dont know them anyhow) so u would probably just immediately assume the worst of them and want justice.
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