FirstJohn318 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Ok so I have posted a couple things on here before, but yesterday some girl from an online dating site contacted me. She seems great but she lives about an hour from me which i dont mind. We might have a date Friday. My gf dumped me about a month ago and while I am not completely thrilled with it but I have come to the conclusion that it is completely over with my ex and theres no chance of us getting back together. We have a lot of the same friends and I want to tell someone about this but I dont want it getting back to her just yet. I still love her and care about her and dont want her to feel like our relationship meant nothing to me. Is it too soon to move on? Thoughts? Sugesstions?
Ginger Beer Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Why do you care what she thinks? She dumped you. You're free to do what you want. Personally I would go ahead with your date.
Lil1 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I think that only you really know whether it is too soon for you to start dating again, but my suggestion would be to keep it to yourself for now (if you decide to start dating again), because it may not pan out the way you are hoping and you may discover that you are not ready to move on just yet. Also, it will inevitably get back to your ex if you two travel in the same social circles so if you are worried that it will get back to her, trust that it will!
Author FirstJohn318 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Why do you care what she thinks? She dumped you. You're free to do what you want. Personally I would go ahead with your date. I am going to go ahead with it...I Just wanted to know if it was too soon to start telling people about it. Because i dont want it to get back to her just yet anyway
Kelemort Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 If I'm reading this right, you have concerns about what your ex thinks about you. You may not want to be in a relationship with her again, but you still definitely have some feelings for her. I think it's better to continue on single for a while than it is to drag someone else through your mud while you're still not over your ex-girlfriend. I've been the girl who gets dragged into somebody's "I'm not over my ex-girlfriend even though it's been several weeks/months/years." It is the most painful, horrible experience of your life when you fall for somebody and while you're looking into your future, they're looking into that bubble in the past. Get over her and then decide what you'll do.
veggirl Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 She dumped you. You are allowed to move on! If you don't want her to find out, then don't tell anyone you are going on a date. I agree, however, that if you are really that concerned about how your ex is going to feel, then you aren't over her enough to be going out with someone else.
Ginger Beer Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 If I'm reading this right, you have concerns about what your ex thinks about you. You may not want to be in a relationship with her again, but you still definitely have some feelings for her. I think it's better to continue on single for a while than it is to drag someone else through your mud while you're still not over your ex-girlfriend. I've been the girl who gets dragged into somebody's "I'm not over my ex-girlfriend even though it's been several weeks/months/years." It is the most painful, horrible experience of your life when you fall for somebody and while you're looking into your future, they're looking into that bubble in the past. Get over her and then decide what you'll do. Hope you're better now.
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