joshextreme Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 (edited) My ex and I broke up 2 months ago and I initiated NC 11 days ago. Last night my close friend urged me to text her and wasn't telling me anything. Since this was coming from a close friend I trusted things would be alright. In my head I assumed that my ex was too nervous to text me about coming back. So I texted her and she knew I was curious about her prom date. I just learned that the guy she was going to go with bailed on her so this also played into the idea that she wanted me back. Long story short I was told to text her just so she could tell me herself that she was bringing her ex that she dated before me to prom. My friend told me she thought it was better to hear it from my ex. My ex telling me this infuriated me. We argued for about half an hour through text message and our convo went a little like this her: "to think ive been missing you.." me: "why do you do this to me... <her name> you know i do miss you a lot but you've moved on and im trying to. either let me move on or talk to me. either way its a win for you.." her: "i dont want it to be a win for me.. i want u to be able to move on. but idk how not being able to wave or show any acknowledgment gets in the way of that." me: "because thats what friends do. i refuse to settle for anything less than what i once had. until you realize that, you know where to reach me." her: "Fine. goodbye josh" That was the end of that. My ex and I dated a little over a year. She moved on really quickly where as I have been struggling. I am now restarting NC and am on day 1. I know now that I won't listen to my friends when they say text her. What do you guys think she was trying to get at in this convo? She pretty much told me she missed me so Idk. Edited March 23, 2011 by joshextreme
MrElusive Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 It seems as though she wants your attention, she wants to find out whether you miss her or not, which you obviously do. It also sounds as though she's messing with your head mate, if she's taking her ex to the prom instead of working things out with you then NC would be the best bet. Don't make someone else a priority if all you are to them is an option.
Author joshextreme Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 It seems as though she wants your attention, she wants to find out whether you miss her or not, which you obviously do. It also sounds as though she's messing with your head mate, if she's taking her ex to the prom instead of working things out with you then NC would be the best bet. Don't make someone else a priority if all you are to them is an option. NC for a long ass time for sure lol. I think she was surprised with the last text I sent. 10 days earlier I was begging for her back and now I'm giving her ultimatums. Felt nice haha
Author joshextreme Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 It seems as though she wants your attention, she wants to find out whether you miss her or not, which you obviously do. It also sounds as though she's messing with your head mate, if she's taking her ex to the prom instead of working things out with you then NC would be the best bet. Don't make someone else a priority if all you are to them is an option. I kinda have this feeling that she's gonna come back and try to start something again. Should I just full out ignore her?
geegirl Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 The definition of insanity is repeating the same behaviors and expecting different results. You entertain her contact again and you will basically go through the same cycle with this girl. She wants your attention for her own selfish reasons. Don't give it to her. NC all the way.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Yes ignore her. She left for a reason, and even if she came back to you, it probably wont be at 100%. You dont want that. I think she was telling you anything she could to keep you from yelling at her. Heres the truth, she wanted to be with the guy who was supposed to be her prom date, but she didnt want to hear from you. It might not work with her ex, but you dont want her coming back to you after losing from grass is greener syndrome. Hopefully you know the real reason she left you in the first place, but anything she said in that convo was to avoid her feeling any guilt. She said things she thought would make you feel better that she wont feeel guilty about. But I dont think she \misses you and I dont think she has any feelings for you, and you solidified that by calling her and yelling at her.
Author joshextreme Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Update. So my buddy got into an argument with her because she was mad that my buddy took me out drinking a few weeks ago. It's getting real obvious that she still cares about me but she told him that "we're not meant to be." Bull*****. The last text he sent to her was, "you know josh really cares about you, or did. you better start seriously thinking about what you wanna ****ing do before you lose him forever. i have no idea what he sees in you but he sees something and you're not gonna find another guy like him. to lose someone who cares about you that much is just stupid." I have no clue where this is going.
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