danny1972 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 been 30 days strict n/c , which was extremly hard , i have distanced myself from her ,her friends and the places she frequents considering she lives 2 mins away was quite an acheivement . anyhow today i leave my house and literally walk straight in to her she said "hi " i ignored her she then said "no ? ok then " i ignored her again . now my question is this did i do the right thing ? ignoring her shows im not over her right and im still harbouring some sort of anger right ? the sensible thing would have been to say hi and come across as if i was not phased and show i was happy within my self . i have been n/c for 30 days i have avoided her hang outs ,friends etc , now i feel like im back to square one after seeing her even though i have done n/c for 30 days i was hoping not to bump in to her for at least another month , ...of all places walking past my house !!!!
takemedrunkimhome Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 that's crazy huh? you do everything to ignore her existence and then somehow you see her. it may have come to a surprise to her, that you ignored her. either way, I think it was an okay move. showing someone you're okay when you're actually not is tough and being caught off guard like that, well, you handled it pretty well.
mark982 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 should of said hi, now she KNOWS she has the upper hand.
name witheld Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I agree with Mark. Under the circumstances you did ok, but it would have been better to show indifference. But at least you didn't run down the street after her begging for it!!!
name witheld Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I did something similar recently and handled it ok but think I should have done it differently. Had been out with a few friends and the missus and then everybody went home. Missus was feeling tired so we took her home and then me and my friend went to a club. Came out and my ex was standing in the queue with her mate. She spotted me straight away and I clocked her pretty quickly too. Anyway we had to walk past them and I didn't have enough time to tell my mate without making it obvious. So we just walked past and I found myself wishing that I had my hot lady on my arm instead of putting her to bed! This made an enourmous grin appear across my face and I should have said hi, grabbed her bum etc but instead I took interest in a small stone rolled it with foot turned and shoot for goal! All sounds very immature typing here but I play football and was caught off guard. Besides who knows if you say hi or engage them in any way it might lead to a bad situation. Saw another ex not long ago and it was all relaxed and casual until her sister started causing an argument! **** me, these women are crazy man just crazy. So sometimes dammned if you do and dammed if you dont.
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