takemedrunkimhome Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 so about 2 months ago my girlfriend broke up with me. not long ago I found out that she was back with her ex. the guy who treated her like crap, dumped her twice before, the same guy that her and i argued about for countless nights, the guy that had been sleeping with 4 other women at the time he was seeing her... yep, she was back with. as much as I know this has nothing to do with me, I can't help but feel really hurt and betrayed. I feel like she ripped my heart out, stomped on it, and laughed. why would someone keep going back to that? what kills me is I should've known the first time we fought about it, I knew she wasn't over him. has anyone else gone through something similar to this?*
Author takemedrunkimhome Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 could I have been a rebound? we were friends long before we got together, but I've always had feelings for her. I knew that they were off and on for a few years. I mean, they never got back together they just hooked up, and I'm pretty sure she never lost feelings for him. I look back on it now, I should have never involved myself with her, and now I've gotta hurt, while she has him. not to mention, he was one of my best friends and I can't look at him the same way since this happened.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I see this as a great learning experience. If someone still has feelings for an ex it is a terrible idea to try and forge a relationship with them. Mainly because you do most of the work and there is a very high chance they will cheat or break up with you. Its just an unbalance relationship. Having a best friend that is a cheater sounds sketch. I had a really good friend in college, but once he showed his true colors with how he plays women I stopped associating with him. Once you truly learn to accept that this girl is no good for you, the strong feelings you have for her will be replaced with sweet indifference. This takes both learning and time. Try not to beat yourself up too much. Everyone makes mistakes.
Author takemedrunkimhome Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 thanks for the reply. yeah, I did notice that I was doing most of the work in the relationship and I found myself loving her more than she could ever love me. I just hope I don't get hung up on her the way she did with her ex.
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