grecian Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 This is a continuation i suppose from my other threads. I have certain ideas about how my life with my man and my family needs to be. After a broken marriage i have certain fears and some issues that i need to make sure i avoid next time. I mean i want the next time my marriage to last forever and have a happy family. So, here are my thoughts and i hope there's some people out there who can understand me to some degree. I have strong family values and i devote a lot of time to family. I love kids and i wanna have lots of family time with my future husband and kids. I put a lot of my personal goals to the back burner and i give up a lot of things too (i already have a small child and know how it is to have kids), but it's my choice. I mean i don't mind making these sacrifices, i do what i have to do, and i would expect the same from my future husband. My priorities are clear and i need my husband to have the same priorities as well. In my other marriage, my ex seemed after a point that he wasn't giving a damn about the baby and myself, and he was just seeing us as an "obligation". I don't wanna have the same thing happening to me. I believe when a couple genuinely love each other and want to be together they should be flexible and willing to make some changes in their lives for the sake of the relationship and the family's. I'm not expecting that the other person will not have any need for some personal time; i believe i'm reasonable about that. But i need to have that dedication from the other side too. Am i asking too much? Am i just an ideologist or what? Do you guys think that this can be accomplished? Should i tell all these things to my BF? We actually had a conversation yesterday about some things and told some of my expectations. He is very reasonable and seems pretty flexible but i still have a fear that after we get married he may be stubborn and not willing to sacrifice his personal stuff for me and the kids. Should i be completely clear with him and express my fear and worries??
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