missmebaby Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost 3 months. We have only known each other for that long as well....we met on a dating site. He is 27 and I am 24. In the beginning he was so crazy about me it actually turned me off a little bit because he wanted to see me everyday and was constantly texting me and showering me with compliments. Well one night he opened up to me and told me that he had herpes and wanted me to know before we did anything sexually and he was very distraught about telling me and said he knew it would be the end of me talking to him. Well he was right....I did tell him I couldnt date him anymore. Well he was extremely upset and continued trying to convince me everyday that I should be with him and he knows we are meant to be and that I will never regret it if I decide to be with him. I'm not sure why but I started to develop really strong feelings for him and I really and truly felt that I would be making a huge mistake by turning this guy away because he is so amazing and we have everything in common....we are like the same person as far as likes, dislikes, morals, values, our views on things, etc. He is exactly what I'm looking for and I'm exactly what hes looking for.....not to mention he is crazy about me. I truly felt in my heart that he is "the one." And he has said the same thing many times. He has talked to me about marriage and children and even when I blew it off and said that he cant possibly know that we are going to end up getting married he argues that he knows in his heart that I am the one and that he wants to be with me for a long time. About a week ago I noticed that our relationship is changing.....he does not compliment me as much, does not ask to see me as much.....when we used to lie awake in bed and talk all night, now we have sex and cuddle for a little bit and he falls asleep. He used to call me beautiful and gorgeous and used to comment that I had such a cute smile. Now he will just seldomly even call me sexy. He still does mention marriage but its nowhere near as often...he used to text me all day from work but now I get a text in the morning, maybe 1 or 2 during the day, and then he calls me when he gets home from work. He used to always say what a connection we had, even though he has had 2 relationships in the past that lasted 2 years, he said he has never felt a connection like he does with me. But he has not said anything about that in a couple weeks. I get scared thinking about how things are changing and wondering if his feelings for me are changing.....and then like last night he texted me saying im his everything and that hes so happy to have me in his life and that he loves me so much. It made me feel better for awhile until this morning I am thinking about it again and wondering if he still feels the same. I dont want to be like this....I wish I could just go with the flow and not worry. But I'm worried that hes losing attraction to me or something the longer hes with me. His last girlfriend was very attractive....she was in a swimsuit calendar. She also cheated on him for 4 months and basically spent alll his money and treated him like crap. He does not speak highly of her but knowing that guys are such physical creatures it terrifies me that he compares me to her and I just dont add up and he feels he can do better. Maybe I am overanalyzing...its been 3 years since I've been in a serious relationship so I dont remember the normal progression of things once the newness wears off and 2 people get comfortable together. Is this normal that he has slacked off on telling me how he feels about me and does not ask to see me as much? How do you know if a man is becoming less attracted to you? Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated!
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