Tried everything ? "Some People (Men) Will Pay $20,000 to be set up on a date."

[Mrlonelyone]

From an article in Time Magazine.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2059625,00.html

 

I strongly suggest reading this article. Just when one thinks they have tried everything to come up with a date. Someone comes up with this... in Chicago the city I live in. Which shows that I am not alone in having a hard time simply finding a date in this town where it seems everyone is taken.

 

Why Some People Will Pay $20,000 For a Date

By Joel Stein Saturday, Mar. 19, 2011

 

 

Normally, it would take a year of training before I got to set anyone up, and then I would spend many hours interviewing the client before combing through the 140,000 women in the company's database and reinterviewing some of them with him in mind. But I'm not normal people. In 10 hours, without a break for food, I interviewed eight women and two men. The women don't pay anything, but they aren't assured of a date, just like in the real world. To my shock, none of them seemed like gold diggers. They had great jobs, went to impressive colleges and had other priorities — namely, that they would under no circumstance date a man under 6 ft. (180 cm) tall. He could be bald, fat and jobless as long as he was at least one standard deviation above average height. It makes absolutely no sense that we're the gender that doesn't wear high heels.

 

 

Before my interviewees entered or left my office, I had to call the receptionist to run traffic control to make sure that no one else saw them. Barbie said this was done to ensure client privacy, but I think it was just so I could stop women as they went to leave and estimate how big they were on bottom. I, by the way, have no idea what scale is used to measure on bottom. I didn't know if it was just an S-M-L thing or if there was a number or if I was supposed to use terms I heard in Sir Mix-A-Lot songs. I wound up just trying to draw something.

 

 

More shocking than the non-gold-digging women, however, were the men. Who were hot. And socially well adjusted. With M bottoms. Basically, they were older guys, often divorced, who were serious about getting married and having kids and hated dating. Ironically, because of all the gold diggers. A divorced real estate developer told me, "My first reaction was, I'd never pay $20,000 for a date. Then I thought about what I normally spend $20,000 on." I was falling in love.

 

 

People were really honest. The developer said that not only did his marriage become sexless after he and his wife had children, but she refused for more than 10 years to go on vacation without the kids. He also said he liked Brazilian butts.

 

I want to point out... The many "short" men on here who were complaining that they could not find anyone who would date them may have had a legitimate gripe. These women would not even look at a man who's below six feet. They need a man who's one standard deviation above the mean height. In other words to them... about 84% of the men in America are "too short". Even if he was "bald, fat, and jobless" :/

 

So here's one more thing for me to try if I can come up with $20,000.

[andrew-bkk]

"More shocking than the non-gold-digging women, however, were the men. Who were hot. And socially well adjusted. With M bottoms"

OK dude, so you're over six feet tall. Good start. I'm six foot one and a half.

 

But do you have an "M bottom"?

 

Actually, I don't find it surprising at all that successful, educated women would wish to avoid shorties. But I am curious as to what constitutes an "M bottom".

[Mrlonelyone]

OK dude, so you're over six feet tall. Good start. I'm six foot one and a half.

 

You talkin' to me? I never said I was six feet.

 

I don't know what that guy considers an M(edium) bottom. Somewhere between Jennifer Lopez (gotta be an L) and Callista Flockhart (definite S).

[Mrlonelyone]

This topic is too interesting to not be seen by the afternoon and evening shift.

 

Online dating

done it

 

bars

 

friends

 

family

 

work

 

school

 

All those common sources for dates and came up dry. Get $20,000 and get a professional match maker to guarantee you a date...of the legitimate kind.

[fortyninethousand322]

Having grown up being taught the value of hard earned money I can't justify spending $20k for a match maker to set me up on a date. It just seems like a lot of money with no guarantee of success. That being said, ask me again in 5 years maybe my answer will be different.

[Knittress]

I wouldn't do this solely for the fact that I wouldn't be able to stomach ending up with a man who considers this a good financial investment. I just can't respect it. That's a downpayment on a house!

[Woggle]

A sucker is born every minute and they pay this kind of money for dates. I always tell men to chase their dreams and build themselves up and the quality women will come naturally. It's actually not that hard but too many men chase women while forgetting to build themselves up. When you do that you have a great life that you built yourself plus a quality woman.

[dispatch3d]

do yourself a favour and xnay on the newsay. They are very dramatic, because drama sells. Just look at the threads that are most popular on this forum - the more dramatic the more replies. Doesn't make a ton of sense lol. Actually if you see a thread which is drama free then it won't get any replies.

[musemaj11]

These men are abominations. That $20,000 can be used to make themselves look more physically attractive instead.

[brainygirl]

its a gimmick, people will pay for anything if they have enough money and lack enough brains.

 

I wouldn't participate in either side of that. Twenty grand is a house, a car, a couple of years of college for my kids.

[Mrlonelyone]

its a gimmick, people will pay for anything if they have enough money and lack enough brains.

 

I wouldn't participate in either side of that. Twenty grand is a house, a car, a couple of years of college for my kids.

 

Honestly if I had 20 grand and was that desperate to get laid I would just have a top quality sex change and try my luck as a bisexual woman.(as being a bi and ambiguous lady is more acceptale to society getting laid would be easier...I know it was when I was a non-op transie.)

[brainygirl]

Honestly if I had 20 grand and was that desperate to get laid I would just have a top quality sex change and try my luck as a bisexual woman.(as being a bi and ambiguous lady is more acceptale to society getting laid would be easier...I know it was.)

 

But this points to the root of most of our problems here on LS.

 

People are obsessed with sex, with getting it, with keeping it, with being good at it.

 

But each of us has a life that needs to be lived. One rich with interests, friends, family, causes, hobbies and obsessions. We've made the relationship into this big piece of ourselves, when we don't even have it yet.

 

And quit it with the whole "women have it easier" crap. Women do not have any easier a time than men do.

[Mrlonelyone]

I am not obsessed with sex.. I was trying to be funny.

[Mr.Cairo]

But this points to the root of most of our problems here on LS.

 

People are obsessed with sex, with getting it, with keeping it, with being good at it.

 

But each of us has a life that needs to be lived. One rich with interests, friends, family, causes, hobbies and obsessions. We've made the relationship into this big piece of ourselves, when we don't even have it yet.

 

And quit it with the whole "women have it easier" crap. Women do not have any easier a time than men do.

 

Yes, I've noticed that. How the patriachy tells women that they need to be in relationships - and heading for marriage too! - to fulfill their roles in life. As if a woman couldn't be celibate or just looking to have fun.

 

She has to deal with any potential problem from the boyfriend/husband and smile about it because that's her traditional gender role.

 

Like people expecting me to break my back in a coal man because I was given superior upper body strength. I was also given a brain so excuse me while I use it .

 

Men and women worry too much about the permanncy of what they're having right now ' is he using me for sex? Does he love me?'

 

'Is she interested in me because she thinks I have money?'

 

Life is so incredibly short. Have a relationship if that's what the person really, honestly wants. Meet new people. Dance with a different person every day of the week. Join a monastery. Become a painter. Change the world, or just change yourself.

 

But never waste away these little decades of life on worrying about not finding a partner, if he's addicted to porn, if she's spending the guy's money on shopping.

 

Just live(That's a general advice for all women and men, not directed you)

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[Jynxx]

its a gimmick, people will pay for anything if they have enough money and lack enough brains.

 

I wouldn't participate in either side of that. Twenty grand is a house, a car, a couple of years of college for my kids.

20k is nothing compared to the potential payoff. IF she could guarantee you find a partner you could spend the rest of your life with, you would be the biggest fool on the planet for not doing it. 20k is a mediumpriced car. Would you rather have a mediumpriced car than the partner of your dreams, and the "finding a partner"-issue out of the way for the rest of your life?

 

The real question is, what would the odds be of actually meeting the partner of your life trough that service? For me it would have to be above 5% to be worth 20k, and I don't think that the service gets to that chance.

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I'd pay that much, if I had it, just to get a kiss on the lips. I am so lonely.