valdeetz1 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I'm a tad over 3 months post LTR (7 yr) BU. I am at a point where I have more better days then bad ones. I do think about the crap on a daily basis, but not near as much. I actually catch myself and try to distract myself and stop it. I dont dwell on it like I was. I finally got rid of all the pics on FB. I ignored them for awhile, but I deleted them this past weekend. I didnt look at them much- just deleted the whole albums. I'm moving to a different place- not far but a fresh start Excited about that. I've been talking to a new guy too. ( Not the friend I wigged out on in a previous thread) I don't feel guilty(like in that previous thread), and I actually think I like the guy. We have a lot in common as far as hobbies and likes. I mean there is an attraction but there is also a lot in common. But no hopes up yet. :oHe seems like a good guy- I've known him for a few months, he works at a restaurant I go to a lot. But recently we just hit it off and swapped numbers I'm feeling really good- and it shows. A girl I know told me I looked happy. I had looked sad for awhile- so she was glad to see that. She wasnt a friend just a girl that is around at a place I hang out a lot. This made me feel even better. I know people are reading, and people are hurting. But even though it doesnt seem like it things will get better, slowly but surely.
0hpenelope Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 (edited) Ah, Facebook rears its ugly head again - even in the best of places like healing. It's always there! Always! Even when I took a long break from Facebook (we're talking years), I was still on it because of friends' pictures! I actually like this update from you, too: Just to add to this I heard from my ex's mom and brother the other day.( me and his mom were really close and she still tells me she wants me to take care of her when shes old) They had thought I was in Japan when the earthquake hit so they were checking on me. This event got brought up- and evidently it rattled him a hell of a lot more. He texted his mom at the restaurant, pretty much flipping out that I was there. And evidently upset I didnt look/talk to him. I didnt press for details- I didnt want them. But what little I got made me feel good for handling it like I did. During most of the conversation we just talked about me and how I was doing ( Great of course ), whether I was going to Japan still with the aftermath, and how things were at work. I did pretty good, though I did let slide I had been talking to a guy. ( accidental at first but when she pressed I gave details) And later that day I got like 7 blocked calls that I ignored. So I'm sure that slip got to him. Ego boost for me though... At this point I'm not for reconciliation. Not unless major changes were to be involved. But...right now I'm doing a lot better, and I'm ok with things. Its ok if it doesnt work out. Huh... That all sounds awesome, val! I'm happy you're safe! Will you be going back to Japan anytime soon, or are there travel advisories that will prevent you from going for a while? My ex has ties to Japan also and I spent two hours talking myself out of getting in touch w/ him. He has his friends for comfort - and I'm not his friend. Though I did send positive thoughts his way; I'll just leave it up to the universe to do what it wants to w/ them. I have to wonder if he got wind of your new romantic interest, which helped escalate those attempts at calling you (seven?! Really?! Actually, I can believe it - I've witnessed worse). I mean, really. He's definitely not the only one who gets to have a new romantic sidekick! You're moving on, too. Also, you shared seven years of your life with this man thing person and he left you for a girl. I'd like to tell him "Dude, I know you're worried and all because seven years isn't easy to just kick to the curb and Japan is a big deal right now, but you made kicking those seven years to the curb look so easy to do... where were you this whole time? It had to take Earth shaking to wake you up from your 'new relationship feel-good haze'? Give me a break! val's fine, yeesh! Go back to your girlfriend." I really like where you're at right now, val. Thank you for posting an update and when you have the time away from the new apple of your eye and being your fabulous self, do come back and keep us posted! Edited March 24, 2011 by 0hpenelope
LD1981 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I know people are reading, and people are hurting. But even though it doesnt seem like it things will get better, slowly but surely. Still finding this difficult to believe, i hope your right.
betterdeal Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 That's great to hear! It does get better. It's a case of letting go of the past and embracing the present.
BlindRage Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Still finding this difficult to believe, i hope your right. Screw your negativity! It is possible! You better freakin believe it LD1981 because you'll be living it also! Life is great and short!
LD1981 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Screw your negativity! It is possible! You better freakin believe it LD1981 because you'll be living it also! Life is great and short! haha, thanks blingrage, guess im just angry today lol Glad things are looking good for you Valdeetz1!!
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