Hopeless Girl Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 (edited) He loved me so much and I was skeptical. I loved him though just wanted to take things slow. The day before he tells me he loves me so much and couldnt wait to see me and the next day he literally dumps me over the phones, desactivates FB, deletes me from msn the whole thing. His best friend tells me he couldnt sleep that day and felt horrible cause he knew he hurt me. He dumped me with "lets not talk for a while" but men mean a lot of things when they say things. He says he thinks we arent meant to be. WHY IS THIS! I know we are WAY different but just the day before he couldnt wait to see me. WHY! Ive been in so much pain. 3 months and a half dating. His best friend told me he was so into me too. wHY? Edited March 23, 2011 by Hopeless Girl
WTRanger Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Did you tell him that you wanted to take it slow? If so, that more than likely spooked him. More than likely he was hoping for something he would find easily with you but when he had to work for it, he bolted. You can't analyze his words, only his actions. His action was to dump you and at least according to your post, with no real reason. At least any reason he would tell you.
Author Hopeless Girl Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 Did you tell him that you wanted to take it slow? If so, that more than likely spooked him. More than likely he was hoping for something he would find easily with you but when he had to work for it, he bolted. You can't analyze his words, only his actions. His action was to dump you and at least according to your post, with no real reason. At least any reason he would tell you. I told you he said he thinks we arent meant to be cause were so different.
depplover_1980 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Err no you didn't, you said he thinks 'you aren't meant to be'! You're the one that said you're 'way different'. Maybe he dumped you because you snap at people!
WTRanger Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Me thinks there is more to this story. All I was saying was that the words, "Take it slow." can send people (both men and women) running in the opposite direction. Have you had sex with him yet? If not, take it slow, in his mind meant he'd have to wait for it and perhaps all along he was saying things to get in your pants. Perhaps you just dodged a huge bullet.
geegirl Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 What a quick 180. Deactivating you left, right and center. Maybe he's married. Wifey found out and he bolted. Don't snap at me. I just say this because it happened to a friend.
carhill Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Some men do dump out of the blue. Possible 'reasons': 1. Exercised an option with another lady he was seeing/interested in 2. Thinking the interaction. Example: Saying 'I love you' without feeling it, but rather thinking it is the right/effective/appropriate thing to do. 3. Emotional instability/immaturity 4. In a relationship with someone else TBH, with a lot of years and many such experiences under my belt, I tend to look at actions. If someone says 'I love you' then disappears, their disappearance is the instructive part. The ILY was perhaps relevant to them when they said it, but their subsequent disappearance was/is the true message. Acceptance is key Welcome to LS
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