acapla_girl Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 My husband moved out 9 mos. ago and we are in the process of separating, It has been very difficult, but I think we are both coping pretty well after the end of a 14 year marriage that was full of a lot of conflict. Turns out love ISN'T enough...we really had no common interets and did not take time to cultivate any. He simply decided one day that our life is not what he wants anymore and he is absolutely not up for any discussion. Our 3 kids 7,9,11 seem to be coping as well as they can and I am grateful that he is a much better father than husband. I began dating casually 3 mos. ago and found a terrific guy who is very interesting and we share a ton of common interests. He made it perfectly clear from the begnning that he was not prepared for anything serious and he wishes we had found each other a little further down the road, but he was glad to have found me "before someone else did". We made an immediate connection that became quite serious very quickly. BUT-he is not officially separated yet either and really tied up with teenagers and a new job and aging parents, etc. When I pushed for more of his attention than he was able to give, we mutually decided to take a "break" for a few months until things settle down for both of us. I assumed this meant NC and about 10 days into it he sent a few casual e-mails (I was thinking about you, hope you are well, etc.). I replied, but left it at that. I want to give him space, but he is the one who reached out to me first so I am asking if it seems reasonable to maintain e-mail contact without sending the message that I am ready to jump back in. Does anyone have any thoughts/similar experience?
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