chelle21689 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I've been seeing this guy for a month. We hang out on the weekend and talk every night. At first I had major butterflies, I day dreamed about him so much I couldn't concentrate on work, he took my breath away when we parted, and I obsessively looked at his pictures over and over on Facebook. After a month, I don't feel that anymore but I do look forward to talking and seeing to him, I am still attracted, and I still want to get to know him better. I've only been in one relationship ever (5 1/2 years a few months ago) and I never was really infatuated with him but of course loved him haha.
creighton0123 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 For some people, what you refer to as the "honeymoon" phase can be short, can be long, can be perpetual, or can not really occur right away. You experienced it for a month. I've personally experienced it for a week or two in one relationship, six months in my current relationship (boyfriend and I were distance challenged while the honeymoon phase was still alive and well). Don't fret. Get to know him better and see where things lead. IMO, communication about feelings, intentions, and desires is more important than any honeymoon phase.
Els Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Distance typically extends the honeymoon phase a little, because those visits are just tastes of heaven. Lasted for about a year and a half with current bf. I would just not worry and go with it and see where it leads you.
aerogurl87 Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 I agree with Creighton and Elswyth. The honeymoon phase can last weeks to years, just depends on the person. Just because it's gone now though doesn't mean it can't happen again. With my ex I went through the honeymoon phase for about a year and a half or so (including post break up oddly enough). With my boyfriend now, the honeymoon phase started a few months into us dating (when we first met in person) and extended for a few months, then died off. And now it's started again since I moved to be with him, lol. So if you still feel attracted and want to be with him, go for it. The longer you stay with someone who makes you happy, the more things you find out about them which can mean a lifetime of falling in love over and over again with them as you learn more about one another.
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