jldr123 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 This story seems crazy but here we go.... I met a guy at work who was amazing to me esp compared to my ex husband who abused me and an abused childhood. I have come very far and made something of myself without letting my past hurt me. I knew that he had a wife and daughter but per lawyer as long as i had proof they both separated with intent to stay separated i would be okay. We dated for 10 months and had a fight but still talked. During this time (i didnt know until much later) he went back to his wife for 3 weeks (without sex) and also kissed another girl on a vacation i was not invited to. We got better and began again on course right after he got back from vacation and went good for 4 months when i found out he was not "with his wife" but staying at the house a few nights. We broke up and went about our way. A month later i recieved a phone call from his wife (she got my number from his phone) saying she was done with him and didnt care what we did that she knew he loved me. We got back together and were okay for a couple months when i found out his wife tried to sleep with him and he tried as well but could not perform. We broke up due to the face of the sexual encounter and me not wanting to stand between them even though both say they are done. I left town and have tried to move on expecting that he would go back to her. He also started accusing me of cheating stating that is the reason i left. 6 months later he is contacting me and i have confirmed he never went back. I still love him and i do see him trying. But trust is a hard thing to get back and i freak out everytime he is at her house and i dont hear from him for a while. He gets aggrivated at me for being aggrivated but ive seen to much to not worry and she does go through spurts where she asks and trys to get him back. I know many people who have gotten over cheating and continue to have a wonderful relationship. Not sure what to do or how to do it. I am a young and beautiful woman who could have choices of men so im not wanting to stay for the fear of being alone, i truly love him and know he loves me and i dont want to give up on something if something can become of it.
whichwayisup Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 End it and walk away. His (ex) wife will always be a part of your lives because of their daughter. If they divorce, you'll have to deal with her, see her, be step mom to their daughter. He is far from over with his wife. She isn't over him and for some reason they both are playing cat and mouse with eachother. Something obviously is keeping them together other than their kid. Remove yourself from the equation and you'll begin to feel better. Yes it'll hurt but in the long run atleast no more wondering what is going on, if he's back with her and also dealing with his accusations against you.
PegNosePete Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Run away very fast. If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you. And he has cheated on you several times already. Seriously unless you want this kind of treatment all your life, move on and find a decent (unmarried) guy!
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