joshextreme Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 (edited) So today my friend took it upon herself to ask my ex (my friend is also a close friend with my ex) how things were going with her new guy. Turns out they're going horribly and she's not talking to him anymore. Good new right, since I love her so much. Down part to this is then my friend took it upon herself to ask my ex if she would consider going with me to our prom which is an about a month and a half. She said probably not. :/ . We've been NC for 10 days now and I'm back to square one. My ideal prom was to go with someone whom which I really cared about and loved. My ex is just that and I don't know what to do. Alls I want to do now is talk to her :/ My story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t269539/ Edited March 22, 2011 by joshextreme
0hpenelope Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 (edited) Hold your horses, bro. Don't reach out to her; if she wants to talk to you, she will. Let her come to you. If she comes to you and you are okay with talking to her, control your emotions and don't betray your feelings to her. And don't wait around for her to contact you, either. Keep moving on and focus on your healing. Or... you can also follow your feelings and get in touch. See how she'll respond to you. Edited March 22, 2011 by 0hpenelope
Author joshextreme Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Hold your horses, bro. Don't reach out to her; if she wants to talk to you, she will. Let her come to you. If she comes to you and you are okay with talking to her, control your emotions and don't betray your feelings to her. And don't wait around for her to contact you, either. Keep moving on and focus on your healing. Or... you can also follow your feelings and get in touch. See how she'll respond to you. That last line got me. I think maybe I'll give it a few more weeks before I contact her.
Author joshextreme Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 Ignorance is bliss. I suggest you not to inquire about your ex as bad news will slow your progress Well the joys of high school forbade me from that.
Author joshextreme Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 Heh heh, I know what you mean, I have the same problem as you right now. You'll get used to it but still, don't TRY to inquire about her. If the info goes to you then I guess there is not much you can do. UPDATE: My friend told me to text my ex which I was very hesitant on but I gave in. My ex knew I was curious about who she was taking to prom. She ended up telling me, without even asking, that shes was bringing her ex. The fact that my friend pretty much set me up for failure hurts but the fact that my ex knows I've been so depressed lately had the balls to throw this on me. Idk what to do anymore :/
0hpenelope Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 (edited) UPDATE: My friend told me to text my ex which I was very hesitant on but I gave in. My ex knew I was curious about who she was taking to prom. She ended up telling me, without even asking, that shes was bringing her ex. The fact that my friend pretty much set me up for failure hurts but the fact that my ex knows I've been so depressed lately had the balls to throw this on me. Idk what to do anymore :/ I'll just C&P what I said earlier with a few additions: Hold your horses, bro. Don't reach out to her anymore; if she wants to talk to you, she will. Let her come to you. If she comes to you and you are okay with talking to her, control your emotions and don't betray your feelings to her. And don't wait around for her to contact you, either. Keep moving on and focus on your healing. Or... you can also follow your feelings and get in touch. See how she'll respond to you. Breaking NC in the weeks to come is probably not a good idea in your situation. Also, I didn't add this earlier, but I was going to mention how I wasn't sure how I'd react to your friend doing that to you, if I were in your position. "The road to hell is paved with good intentions" and if I were in your ex's position, I would take our mutual friend's question as a big hint that someone else is interested in that information. Sorry, bro. This is why in a lot of cases, NC is just the way to go. Let the ex that left the relationship put in all of the work to initiate conversation and contact. If she never speaks to you again, that's okay because you moved on and focused on your healing. Edited March 23, 2011 by 0hpenelope
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