Lil1 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Hey guys! Just thought I would share my first online dating experience with you all! Last night I went on my first match.com date and it was a very nice date! He contacted me first (on Friday) to let me know he was interested in getting to know me further after reading my profile. I checked out his and decided he seemed normal enough (I had only been approached by creeps up to this point) so I decided to give him a chance and emailed him (on Sat.) He gave me his number and we exchanged a few texts (on Sun.) and set up a date for Monday (yesterday). We went to a Mexican restaurant close to where I live, we had discovered through our previous texts that our favorite foods were Italian and Mexican=) We talked nonstop about so many different things and there was never an awkward moment of silence. I’m a very easy going person and I think we both just felt comfortable with each other. After dinner we were having such a good time getting to know one another that we didn’t want to end the night just then, so we went for a drive to the beach. He is a little younger than me (I’m 29 he is 27) but he seems very grounded and was very respectful the entire night – no reference to sex or anything like that. We ended the night with a little kiss on the lips (no tongue – again, he was very respectful)… He actually asked if he could kiss me because he had been dying to do it all night=) Overall it was a very lovely experience and there will definitely be a second date with him! So for all of you fellow LS people doing the online dating thing, don’t get discouraged because there are some decent people who genuinely just want to make a connection with someone. You just have to be open to the experience and go with the flow! I was soooo skeptical about doing it (online dating) but after last night’s experience I feel much more comfortable and look forward to our second date
MarlyStar Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 How wonderful. I just did my first match date tonight too. It went well. Have you heard from him since?
Author Lil1 Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 Hey MarlyStar! actually yes I heard from him yesterday - he texted me during his lunch break to say hi & hoped that I was having a nice day. Then later in the evening he texted me again to see if I would like to go out with him tonight. We are going to an Italian restaurant neither of us have been to tonight (being 'adventurous' lol!) =) I'm glad to hear that your date went well also! I'm glad this match.com experience is turning out well! My date also mentioned at the end of our first date how pleased he was that he finally met someone who seemed really compatible with him through match.com also! I know they say you arent supposed to just stop with one date but I think that if I am genuinely interested in this guy then I should give him a real shot so I havent been looking for other dates yet. I'm curious to know what your approach to the whole online dating scene is - are you multi-dating? Good luck with it all, it sounds like you've already made a good connection with someone;)
Crazy Magnet Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I multi-date. However, I tend to get sucked into things too fast. Having more than one guy on the table keeps me focused on finding out who is the most compatible rather than jumping in because someone happens to be there. I typically don't let things go past 3 or 4 dates (or a month) if I'm unsure about the level of chemistry, etc. In terms of looking for other people at the same time I'm already dating someone else. It's hard to do once you have a crush. I've got a crush right now and although I'd like to sit around and be giddy about only the one guy, I don't want to pin all my hopes on him only to be left with nothing if he doesn't feel the same way. So, I keep looking. At some point you have to decide who and what you want. I always assume anyone I meet online is also meeting and dating other people.
Author Lil1 Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 (edited) Yes definitely I am also assuming that he is dating others - but I havent asked him directly (cause I understand if he is)...So do you date just one guy for like 3 or 4 times (depending on how much you like him of course) and then move on if there is no LTR chemistry, all the while looking for the next guy? I think that actually may be a good strategy! But I think dating two guys simultaneously may be a bit too hard for me - I'd like to keep my focus on one guy at a time! So essentially what I will be doing is lining up my next date if after the 4th or 5th date with the current one doesnt lead to 'the next level'... setting up a back up if you will! Gosh it sounds wrong but I guess that's what dating is all about! Meeting different guys until you find the one that can develop into the relationship you want! So maybe this weekend I will devote some time to finding another prospect... this whole process is very time consuming and I definitely like putting thought into my responses and my screening of potential dates. Thanks for the tip! Edited March 23, 2011 by Lil1
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