dreamingoftigers Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I bet this book and movie has caused a good number of divorces. I also feel bad for the people of Italy and Bali and I hope they make as much money as possible from these women with tourist traps. The only somewhat pro-male movie I saw The Hangover. There is one character who is engaged to an abusive woman who controls his every move despite he fact that she cheated on him on a cruise. He goes off to Vegas for a bachelor party and gains his self respect in the craziness causing him to dump her in the end. It was a surprising to see a woman outright portrayed as the bad guy. He totally cheated on her though... bs.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 He totally cheated on her though... bs. She cheated on him first. Not saying it is right but I understand exactly what he did.
Memphis Raines Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Not planning on seeing it either. Especially knowing the truth that Goldenspoon laid out. I remember watching Unfaithful with Richard Gere and Diane Lane. I also wanted to vomit. Almost turned it off. but I didn't. Then it got to the scene where she realized he knew that he had found her out and he said, "I didn't want to kill him, I wanted to kill you" I was like whoa! Kind of a, "damn dude" moment, but "right on" at the same time. Thats how much it hurts when one finds out they have been betrayed.
lightoftruth83 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 So I'm a few days late on the topic, but the thread title caught my eye...and I had to read. I gotta say, I didn't read every single response but I did browse over them...and here I sit at a quarter to ten on a Sunday night...the laundry needs folding, my lunch needs packed and my uniform needs to be laid out...the living room could stand to be vacuumed and the dogs will need to go out soon. Nevermind that in ten short hours I will be sending my three year old off with the one person that has wreaked more havoc than I could ever blog about... Yet, here I am; because I am escaping the inescapable. Just like Julia Roberts in Eat, Pray, Love. (I should add that it took me four attempts to watch the whole movie, wait, make that five.) I don't think that the movie is altogether plausible; perhaps more of just a fanciful idea. Hell, which one of us (given that we had the ability to take a year off work, somehow ending up financially stable despite not working; apparently an endless cash flow; and zero attachments) wouldn't do something similar? And does it make me as superficial as Julia Roberts to daydream about running around Ireland drunk on Guinness with no plan whatsoever in an attempt to somehow recuperate from the last 5+ years of my life? I think at some point or another, in one way or another, we've all tried to escape the inescapable...
Duckduckgoose Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 It seems dumb that one would take a few years off of life to go "find themself". I don't have to find myself... I am living in my own body! If I need to get back to myself so to speak I do what I been doing since exH left. I take time to introspect when I can. I do things I like that I had to stop doing when things were getting bad with the marriage. This might just be me but I can't introspect well if I am on a vacation in new parts of the world. I would be out exploring the world, not introspecting. I would not be finding myself, I would be finding new parts of this planet. It seems at least to me if I want to get back to myself I need to be in a place I am comfortable doing so. That means where I am, not 10 timeszones east of me.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 It seems dumb that one would take a few years off of life to go "find themself". I don't have to find myself... I am living in my own body! If I need to get back to myself so to speak I do what I been doing since exH left. I take time to introspect when I can. I do things I like that I had to stop doing when things were getting bad with the marriage. This might just be me but I can't introspect well if I am on a vacation in new parts of the world. I would be out exploring the world, not introspecting. I would not be finding myself, I would be finding new parts of this planet. It seems at least to me if I want to get back to myself I need to be in a place I am comfortable doing so. That means where I am, not 10 timeszones east of me. I found way more of myself doing the laundry and cleaning the house then I did travelling all over North America for two years (not that I'd trade it).
Duckduckgoose Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I found way more of myself doing the laundry and cleaning the house then I did travelling all over North America for two years (not that I'd trade it). Its easier to "find myself" here where I live, not my apartment specifically but the area. Rollerblading, hiking, mountain biking... even walking around the greenways or walking down my street and dodging traffic is a better way to find myself. Another good way even though its painful is to go past or even walk into places that me and exH used to visit. It hurts but its like I gotta reclaim that spot as my own. First on my list will be a restaurant that was the first one him and I ever ate in when we were down here to get an apartment. I drove past it today on accident and it was definitely one of those triggers. ITS MY RESTAURANT NOW BITCH!
dreamingoftigers Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Its easier to "find myself" here where I live, not my apartment specifically but the area. Rollerblading, hiking, mountain biking... even walking around the greenways or walking down my street and dodging traffic is a better way to find myself. Another good way even though its painful is to go past or even walk into places that me and exH used to visit. It hurts but its like I gotta reclaim that spot as my own. First on my list will be a restaurant that was the first one him and I ever ate in when we were down here to get an apartment. I drove past it today on accident and it was definitely one of those triggers. ITS MY RESTAURANT NOW BITCH! Just don't urinate on the bathroom floor to mark the territory, unless it is one of those Downtown McDonald's locations... no one will notice anways. I know exactly what you mean by the places triggering. Gladly I went for EMDR therapy last year and places rarely trigger me anymore, they are just places. Used to be just awful for me thinking about exes.
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