MissMoni Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Well, I am not feeling as strong as I was a couple of weeks ago. Today is my birthday, and I have yet to hear from my ex at all. Granted, I did delete him from Facebook, but I explained to him I needed that to heal, and we parted on the phone a month ago on what seemed to be good terms. Birthdays were always important to us, we both went all out for eachother's birthdays for the past two years. This past summer, I even flew out to his state to see him for his birthday. Yet, he couldn't even manage a simple text message, or e-mail, or even a quick call. I don't understand how you can claim to care about someone and then ignore them on a day you know is so important to them. And I know he hasn't forgotten because several of our mutual friends share the same birthday, and I am sure he wished them happy birthday. On Facebook, a lot of our mutual friends also tagged me in statuses that I know he probably saw, so it's not a matter of him forgetting as much as him not caring about me at all...even though he keeps saying that he doesn't want to "distract" me from my schoolwork. How is saying happy birthday a distraction? I'm hurt he couldn't even put his pride down on this day, of all days, and this is making me question whether or not I should even try to be his friend later. I mean, if you can't say happy birthday...then that pretty much means you hate the person..and I would never do this to him I feel weak for even wanting him to say happy birthday, but it would still mean a lot to me.
JasonRules Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 First off Happy Birthday to you and best wishes. Secondly, I understand it can be painful that he hasn't reached out to you to wish you a happy birthday, but actually think about it for a second. Him not contacting you only shows his true character which should help you move on. I know this is not what you want to hear, but you need to go NC in order to heal. We have to disconnect ourselves from our exes entirely. I broke things off with my ex some weeks ago because she had me in limbo since December and I got tired of it. Her birthday is next week and I do not plan on contacting her at all.
Author MissMoni Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Well..update. He texted me a simple "Happy Birthday!" ...so I guess I got what I wanted..although it certainly doesn't make me feel better. I just texted back, "Thanks, ____! I appreciate it." ...I hope that doesn't make me appear to desperate. Not that it matters at this point.
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