Enlighten_ME Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Just curious if anyone has ever dated someone with such intense passion it became toxic?
lovnlost Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I think there is a time when this can occur. It can become like a drug addiction. You need and want them so bad when they are not around and when they are by your side....the feeling is spectacular. Then when you seperate....there is a withdrawl symptom.....just like a drug addiction. I would think this is very intoxicating.....I know and understand this. It would be toxic I think, if it was causing more harm then good to you, the person involved with you, and any 3rd parties such as children, or other "peoples" in his/her and your life.
depplover_1980 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Just curious if anyone has ever dated someone with such intense passion it became toxic? Yes it is called mistaking lust for love and when the passions begins to dwindle and big character differences become apparent, the couple can turn their intense energy onto each other and have enormous arguments.
fbellis Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I have been on and off with a man for over 2 years. We has an unplanned baby together, so now we are tied for the next 17 years or so. We are so intense together that if we are not together we are fighting. so we break up. After we break up we will meet because of the baby. Once we are together again its this crazy addiction (physical and emotional). As soon as we are not together it turns to **** again. I dont mean not being together for like 3 weeks either. Its usually less than two days. Its not healthy and we are both in counseling now. I am trying to move on, but it is hard, especially knowing i will have to see him for the next 17 years.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 It is not passion that is bad but the wrong kind of passion. Contrary to popular belief you don't need drama and dysfunction to have an exciting and passionate relationship.
name witheld Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Oh yes ha ha, hasn't everybody? The make up part is awesome but the long stand offs not so good. Unfortunately for me I found that this can cloud your vision in a healthy relationship failing as because there are no mad arguments you can't see things are going wrong.
Beeotch Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I haven't...but I have seen people do just that. Passion/chemistry does not make a solid relationship but it sure is addictive; hence abusive relationships or otherwise toxic relationships are hard for people to let go of or they convince themselves it's love cause they keep coming back...when in reality all that drama and "passion" is giving you a dopamine overload aka high.... So yea you keep coming back because of that, just like a drug addict would...but it is ultimately destructive, short-lived and not healthy. Some people however are used to this type of high intensity scenario and therefore always seek it out...if it isn't dramatic they don't feel "loved".
Thatguyintx Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Some people however are used to this type of high intensity scenario and therefore always seek it out...if it isn't dramatic they don't feel "loved". You described my ex-gf. It seemed there always needed to be problems and issues to work on. Wore me down!
Mcnulty Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Thatguy...that's exactly how I am feeling, worn down, she's always over analyzing and looking for drama/problems...wears you down alright!
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