P&R Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Fishtaco's thread got me thinking... How many days of the week and how many hours on any given day should you expect from your SO? I know it varies from person to person, and with circumstance but what is the general concensus here? I'm thinking you should ATLEAST have two days a week that you see your SO.
zengirl Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Fishtaco's thread got me thinking... How many days of the week and how many hours on any given day should you expect from your SO? I know it varies from person to person, and with circumstance but what is the general concensus here? I'm thinking you should ATLEAST have two days a week that you see your SO. I think it will ebb and flow with schedules. I mean, there were some weeks where I worked 100 hours, and I wouldn't have time to see anyone I wasn't living with because my routine was literally Work/Sleep/Shower/Work with barely time to eat. In fishtaco's case, the issue is in some ways a lack of communication. I always answer texts/calls from all friends and my SO within a day or so and sooner, if I can. Usually as soon as I see them, if it's a text, or as soon as I get to a place where I can call. I think it should be enough time that it seems like the relationship is a priority, whatever that means with differing work loads/proximity/etc.
Cee Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I think it should be enough time that it seems like the relationship is a priority, whatever that means with differing work loads/proximity/etc. That's a really good answer. I get to see my boyfriend a lot, but that's because he lives nearby and we have shared interests that we can do together. We try to limit it because both of us need alone time too. Currently, I spend one night during the week and one weekend day and night. But we've seen each other more on weeks where there is an event we both go to.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I think that regardless of circumstances... in this day and age there can be some degree of daily or semi-daily contact. You know at least a text or email or FB message or something. However there is no minimum. When I hear about this issue I come in my mind to people who were married but separated for business or other reasons in the age of sail. When the fastest way to send a letter was by ship. People managed to be faithfully married with little to no contact not even a letter for years. It depends on the people and the situation for sure.
Confusedalways Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 (edited) Wow- this surprises me a lot. I need at least 4 days of seeing my boyfriend... even if it's for only a half hour. In terms of communicating to one another, we talk every single day- it seems strange to me that people don't do that? I'd think he was dead if I didn't hear from him for an entire day. That being said, he works full time during the day and I work part time during the day and am a full time master's student at night. We're busy people but we make it work. Edited March 22, 2011 by Confusedalways
Eeyore79 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 My bf and I see each other quite a lot. We do shared hobbies together two nights per week, and he usually drops by for dinner on a third night. Then we spend Saturday night together, so I usually see him at least part of Sunday. That means we see each other at least 3-4 nights per week, sometimes more.
Cee Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 While I've got the face to face down, I still struggle with the right amount of contact between dates. I don't want to overwhelm him with phone calls, so I tend to hold back. I generally call if we haven't seen each other for a day or two. But we email each other almost daily. Nowadays with so many forms of contact- call, text, IM, email, FB post, etc, I get confused. I don't want to be up in his business all of the time.
tigressA Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 My BF and I spend whole weekends together, from Friday night through Sunday night, and 1-2 nights during the week--sometimes during the week the visits will be overnight, sometimes not. As for contact between seeing each other, it's about every other day, sometimes every day. I'd be really worried if I hadn't heard from him at all after 2 days.
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