Dox Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 (edited) Ok me and my girlfriend started to like eachother about 5 weeks ago. We became official 2 weeks ago. The next day after I asked her out, we fooled around, we got to second base. I don't know wether that was too fast or not? Now were planning to have sex on the weekend? So, I just want to know if this is the right move? By the way it was my idea, she wanted to wait a bit more cuz she didnt want to move too fast, but she changed her mind. I didnt force or pressure her in anyway. Though now I think she wants it as much as I do. I like her a lot so I don't want to jeopardise our relationship by moving too fast. Was she right in the first place? Edited March 22, 2011 by Dox
FirstJohn318 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Ok me and my girlfriend started to like eachother about 5 weeks ago. We became official 2 weeks ago. The next day after I asked her out, we fooled around, we got to second base. I don't know wether that was too fast or not? Now were planning to have sex on the weekend? So, I just want to know if this is the right move? By the way it was my idea, she wanted to wait a bit more cuz she didnt want to move too fast, but she changed her mind. I didnt force or pressure her in anyway. Though now I think she wants it as much as I do. I like her a lot so I don't want to jeopardise our relationship by moving too fast. Was she right in the first place? yes way too fast...you are a guy and you want sex it is in your nature, but she will respect you a lot more if you step up and say you should wait. Especially since she originally told you that she wanted to wait. She may only be doing it because she thinks if you guys dont you will break up with her. In addition if you tell her this she may be like awww you are so sweet for telling me we can wait but I am really ok with it. as the star wars movies say. ITS A TRAP. EVEN IF she gives you the green light after this. Be a man and stand up and think with the proper head. Tell her that you want her to take a while and think about it. Then if you are really smart you will set boundries before things get too far. This way you know where she stands on all aspects of the physical part of a relationship before things get that far; so you will know how to respect her better. I do not know how old you are but this is stuff I have learned the hard way. So take it or leave it, it is up to you. Either way I would like to know what path you took so keep me updated Good luck and stay strong
utterer of lies Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 yes way too fast...you are a guy and you want sex it is in your nature, but she will respect you a lot more if you step up and say you should wait. That's some incredibly bad advice. No, just go for it. She will not respect your more if you wait. That's bull****. She might rather wonder what's wrong with you, or if you aren't as compatible as she thought. Don't worry and do what feels natural.
Andy_K Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Go for it. In my experience, sex generally happens within 2-3 weeks or 3-4 dates (whichever is the soonest), and second base obviously earlier. Being 'official' does not happen until some time afterwards. You just worry about what you want and when it feels right for you. If she's not comfortable she'll let you know, otherwise go with it and assume she's cool too.
FirstJohn318 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I dont know about you two but I am a firm believer in LOVE not LUST....49% of marriages end in divorce and you know what it has to do with. People rushing into the relationship. They confuse lust with love and they think oh just because I am getting it we are in love. Sex is just a physical satisfaction and eventually you wont have it as much as youd like if you got married and have kids. Then if you dont have any kind of emotional attachment what then. You will get bored of her and might leave her or she might leave you. Sex is all well and good and fun, but take the time to get to know her personally first. It honestly will be better for you in the long run. dont listen to these other guys here
Saphira Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I think if your second guessing yourself, then wait. and even when you are together you can even stop and say "if you want to wait a little longer thats ok with me" just to make sure its what she really wants. And just a little curious. It was your idea for this weekend? may i ask how you asked. maybe she felt pressured a little? maybe you could have said it in a way that you didnt feel was a pressuing question but she did? anyway if you are comfortable with sharing how you ask about the "lets have sex this weekend" question lol
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