OrlandoNyc Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 We have been together for 3 years . We have been through thick and thin together . A month ago we decided to split up she stated that she wanted to go out with her friends and date new people. we live together so I stated that she would have to pay rent and she agreed . We decided that she would move in to the spare room(2 weeks past) but she didn't get past the couch. We talked again and decided to give it one more shot. Things were great . We kissed liked we first met . Everything was awsome again. When one night when she was sleeping a text came across her phone from some dude that said " hey did you forget about our date" Well pretending to be her I text back" I'm back with my boyfriend sorry" This guy seemed really upset and stated that she was a bitch and that he was going to get her fired. It sounded strange that he would say that and I figured that he must work with her, but it didn't matter to me because we were bck together and that was all tht mattered to me . I deleted the text and mentioned nothing. The next couple of days were awsome again until one night when I called her to pick some things up at the store, but she woudn;t answer her phone. She walked in around midnight and I said How was your date In a joking kinda way. That's when she said that she met someone very special and that she felt feelings for him and it was unfair for her to do this to me so that it was over. I was in shock. and she saw it. Then she starts going into details about how much he gets paid . His cars. his condo. ect.ect, I felt like someone was ripping my heart out.I stayed calm and cool. but that was because I was in shock. The next Night she gets dropped off in front of my house by him. the night after that she text me at 3:30am that she was not coming home that night . now she hardly ever here . she walks in around midnight and leaves in the morning. I called a mutual friend of ours to ask for some advice and he tells me that she was fired for asking a employee out on a date(she s a manager). When she came home that night i confronted her about it and she said thatIt was my fualt for picking up the phone. Andthat this new guy that she is seeing now was willing to pay her bills and that he would take care of her in ways that I could not . she said that he was in the military and that he ships out for 2 months in a week. she stated that he gave her a key to his condo. When she is here she is constantly texting him smiling. she looks happy and she makes sure I see it. It is ripping me apart. I gently asked her what she was waitng for to leave and she stated that she has no intent on leaving yet. That she does not know him well enough>??. but it seems that she does things on purpose to try to get me angry. She folds her change of underware in front of me and packs it to go stay with him. I am so sad. and she knows it almost as if she 's trying to get me so mad I would kick her out. But I can't bring myself to do it.So that she could leave without feeling guilty? He leaves in 1 week and I guess Im hoping that it will be my chance to get her back. I know this sounds pathetic. I feel so low. She can see it. Im affraid that if I tell her to leave she would be happier there and never come back. I hurt so bad. and I don't know what to do.
lday Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I'm sorry. I know it hurts really bad. She's already checked out. If you can let her go as early as you possibly can. There is no way of forcing someone to stay in a relationship if they are ready to leave.
Ollie76 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Yeah man, you gotta let her go. I know it's tough, believe me, I know 3 years is a long time to just walk away. I was just dumped after 4.5 years with my ex and it's rough in the beginning. What ever you do, DO NOT BEG OR CRY FOR HER TO COME BACK. If you do, you will kill any chance of getting her back.
Thatguyintx Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 At this point, you need her to leave. The way she is treating you is not loving, to state the obvious. Sounds like she is intentionally hurting you. If she had any desire to work on your relationship, it would make sense to continue living together. Doesn't sound like that is the case, though. I am sorry for you. You need to get her out of your daily life to heal and gain perspective.
Mcnulty Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Kick her out, she's rubbing your face in it and is humiliating you!!Oh and she's using you for somewhere to stay while she hedges her bets on this guy. Keep your dignity and tell her to get out of your life, she's treat you like dirt and you deserve better...much better.
mark982 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 l'm asuming, by reading your post that it is "your" place she's living in right now. place her crap outside the door. sure it's rough, but enough of her games. sorta give her shock therapy.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 You want her back? Wow. She's a golddigging tramp, let her off to her riches and 6 ex-husbands.
depplover_1980 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I am gobsmacked you want her back too. I am also wondering what you have done to her during the relationship for her to be spitting so much vitriol your way because she is bitter towards you, big time. So based on that and you wanting her back, I feel there are parts of the story missing here.
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