LittleMike Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 7 month relationship, she's the dumper, asked me to be friends and i denied it. She kept visiting my house but i ignored her most of the time(she just wanted to be showerd with attention). 5 months after the breakup i went full NC for about two months in which she text's me saying she would like to hear from me, i deleted and ignored. Saw her one month later and i just said hi and left(i had alot of things to do), she looked somewhat sad when i glanced at her. She has now blocked me from facebook chat and is now going NC, what do you make of this?
spackle Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 you blank her and then she blanks you. What is there to understand?
silvermane187 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 you blank her and then she blanks you. What is there to understand? ^ Sounds like you got what you wanted. Why are you here complaining?
Author LittleMike Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Well, to be completely sincere, i still have some feelings for her. I applied NC just to heal myself because i couldn't bare being her friend after the breakup. Now i'm doing much better and maybe would like to try some LC just so she doesn't disappear forever.
silvermane187 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 If you have feelings for her any light contact is just going to set you back. Trust me, everytime I've tried to maintain light contact it made me feel good for about a day before it came back to stab me in the chest. You can't be friends with an ex that dumped you that you still have feelings for.
Author LittleMike Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Being friends is currently not an option for me. I know it will set me back. After the breakup she was behaving in such a strange manner. She thought i would treat her the same as i did while we were together, she just kept coming to my house and trying to get some attention. Anyway, I don't know, i'm just trying to analyze the situation, i guess this whole thing about thinking of her is setting me back a little. I just feel like she's trying to ignore me just because i ignored her this just one time... It feels like a game i'm not willing to play...
0hpenelope Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I agree that it might be games on her part. "If he's going to ignore me, well I'M going to ignore him, too." Or, to be fair to her, perhaps she realized that she needed to do something similar in order to get over the relationship. She wants to be friends but she's respecting that you don't want to be friends; and because you've ignored her attempts at getting in touch, she took the initiative to block you from Facebook chat and gone NC because you made it clear that you don't want to talk to her. She finally understood what you want from her: no friendship. And I hope you don't feel bad about that because what you did, to focus on your healing and to establish boundaries that you do not want her as a friend, was right for you. Isn't it amazing what complete silence from you did to her? Food for thought.
Author LittleMike Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Well, i feel pretty lost in this whole situation, i was doing pretty good these last 3 months of NC but as soon as i saw her these feelings started to haunt me again. What hurt me the most was she looked kinda sad when i saw her. But i kept NC because my wellbeing is more important than anything else. Of course she dating some guy i know also makes me enforce it, but i don't know if they are still together.
0hpenelope Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Well, i feel pretty lost in this whole situation, i was doing pretty good these last 3 months of NC but as soon as i saw her these feelings started to haunt me again. Yup, that comes with the territory. But nothing, and I mean nothing, has a leg up on time as being the ultimate healer. In the grand scheme of things (meaning your entire life), 3 months is a blip. What's important is what you've done for yourself in those 3 months. And from what I can see, you've done very, very well. What hurt me the most was she looked kinda sad when i saw her. But i kept NC because my wellbeing is more important than anything else. Of course she dating some guy i know also makes me enforce it, but i don't know if they are still together. YES! YES! You get it, you get what NC is really for!!! Whether or not she was sad because you're not a part of her life anymore is not your obligation or your responsibility to her! She wants the break up, she can have it. And since she might still be with someone else, she should focus on that relationship and not building a friendship with you, especially since she already knows you don't want her as just a friend.
Author LittleMike Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 I just hate all these ego games that are played after the breakup. Friends told me she was still into me after the breakup but her actions really said she was just f*****g with my head. As for me i just did my best in improving my life, I exercise every day and feel extremely fit, more dedicated to my studies and hang out every week, iv'e even gone on various dates with some beautiful women. But after 8 months, it still bugs me...
Rosberg Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I just hate all these ego games that are played after the breakup. Friends told me she was still into me after the breakup but her actions really said she was just f*****g with my head. As for me i just did my best in improving my life, I exercise every day and feel extremely fit, more dedicated to my studies and hang out every week, iv'e even gone on various dates with some beautiful women. But after 8 months, it still bugs me... It gets better mang, just hang in there. Don't bother with LC if she broke your heart, she's just going to make it bleed even more if you let her. Remove/block her from your facebook if you haven't done so already, ignore your friends when they say "oh she's still into you" and stuff like that. If you're still thinking about her, i think it's time to get another hobby, try video games, going out driving if you have a car, and just chill there, listen to music and just drive.
betterdeal Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 They aren't games, there's no dumper and dumpee, just two people who shared some of their lives together and now they're not sharing their lives together. People come and go. The only person you have to get on with for your entire life is you. Don't analyse things, just be. Every time you two get in touch with each other you end up hurt. Stop hurting yourself. Wish her well, let go of those feelings, do things that make you happy, don't be sad its over, be happy it happened. Move on.
Author LittleMike Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 Thanks for the support you guys! I just find it tough and tend to over analyze the situation because there where no problems at all with the relationship, it was just a matter of bad timing and maybe some of the GIGS. But maybe you are right, thinking back and over analyzing won't help me at all. I'll just have to forget her for now and keep on moving.
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