Pavle Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 (edited) I am aware of the distaste for long posts (as I’ve been a reader for some time) so I’m sorry . I therefore did my best to make this concise, but there are, however, a few important details that need explaining to make any advice worthwhile. I understand if this is too long to read, however… Over 4 months ago, my ex whom I’d been dating for 6 months left. We were both in love. I, admittedly, had the “upper hand,” but was a good boyfriend, as was she a good girlfriend to me. She told me I was her “first” (which I am almost certain is true, her being a very honest, good-hearted person). She is 20, me 22. So, my ex before her starts contacting me relentlessly. I, in all honestly contributed to this by responding and not telling her not to. This really bothered my most recent ex (understandably). So, one night, just subsequent a “fight” we had over some stupid parking issue, we make up, I get her some ice cream (lol) and we go to watch a movie at her parents. As she’s cuddled up next to me she feels my phone repeatedly vibrating, and out of some moment of total oblivious stupidity, I crack up, like she wouldn’t care or something, and tell her about all the naked pictures my ex is sending me. She, of course, gets upset… I assure her I love her etc. and so on. The next day, she calls me telling me how upset she is and I get angry telling her there’s nothing I can do and that she still talks to her ex from a while back so therefore why do I have to cut contact with my ex (legitimately saying this out of principle). We go back and forth. Eventually, she tells me she’s coming over (I am studying for a test in a few hours and she is like 20 minutes away). I get upset because I really had to study and I couldn’t deal with this. She wouldn’t hear it and even told me she was going to call my father because she wanted her stuff back. I’m totally stunned, as this is not like her at all. She comes over, wanting to, of course come in, talk, etc., but I was so mad about her demanding this when we could have done this later I gave her what she wanted as she was getting out of her car and walked away ignoring what she was saying as I shut my door (cruel I know). She thought I was cheating on her apparently, and honestly, I was so mad I told her I feel like I hate you. (BADDD move, which I quickly apologized for) Okay, a few days later she breaks up with me over the phone, citing her needing to worry about school, thinking I’m “too good for her” (*sigh*), and just not wanting to be in a relationship. I was very upset but it honestly ended on good terms insomuch there was no cursing, yelling, or suchlike; rather, we just exchanged kind words regarding friendship and caring and loving each other and sharing a special moment in our life together. However, she refused to meet up with me later in the day. I was so mad I ended up having sex with my ex ex later that night, during which she began calling me and texting me asking if I was with her… (How did she know? lol) Being with my ex ex made me feel sick to my stomach, but I never cheated on her, nor was this, given her breaking up with me just prior to this. The next day, I stop telling her I’m sorry and stop giving her my power. I ignore her texts until 2 weeks go by but end up responding after thanksgiving.. I text her later that same day telling her we should talk; she calls me within a few minutes. We talk about nothing special. She asks if I told my parents about our “break”….. Break?! lol I didn’t even bother getting into her word usage, which, in hindsight was likely a ploy to extract an emotional response from me for her ego’s sake… Over 1 month goes by with no contact. I end up texting her shortly after Christmas, keeping it light, asking about her Christmas and how things are going. She’s very cordial and seems happy to hear from me, but in a friend type of way, which is fine. I ask if I can call; she says she’s “too tired,” opting to “text instead.” W/e… I tell her we should meet; she says she’ll try to make time (LOL) but she’s just so busy… bs… w/e I text her the next day to wish her a happy quanza… ( a joke. we’re both crackers.) She responds by saying she doesn’t think it’s good for us to see each other yet, that she’s still hurt, and perhaps we can continue texting but right now that’s about it… I told her okay, I just was compelled to get in touch with her again and strike some pleasant convo so she knows it’s okay to talk and didn’t want us not talking because we’re both too stubborn to make the first contact but; having done that, the ball is in your court, and if you want me in your life, contact me. She ends by saying have a good school year… lol *sigh*..thereby insinuating she doesn't plan on talking to me for months, at least.... I got kind of mad soon thereafter and posted a picture of me and this girl laying in my bed, with the pillows she gave me clearly in the shot, and proceeded to send her a f-book friend request, saying how it’s bs we’re not friends, given she’s friends with her ex whom she caught cheating on her. She told me she’s not ready… She blocked me about a week later... I know it was cruel, but I felt like she stabbed me in the heart at the time... no excuse, however... SOOOO, since then, it’s been almost 3 months NC, and not a peep from either side. I sure as hell am not going to give her anymore power, as much as I care about her. To be honest, I’m more insulted that I haven’t heard from her.I've been in another relationship already but it was short lived, being a consummate example of a "rebound." lol What do ya’ll think about this? Will I ever hear from her anytime soon? She’s a very normal, very moral, good-hearted woman. I feel very stupid, because, honestly, as short a time I was with her, she is the type of woman whom I want to create babies with in the not too distant future (she wants many children; only to get married once; hates feminism; is beautiful; is very, very intelligent, more so than me even ) Edited March 22, 2011 by Pavle
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