insanearchitect Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 [FONT=verdana, arial, helvetica][sIZE=2]So I went out last weekend with a bunch of friends and got rather drunk. We were in a club and dancing and I ended up dancing with a friend, who I had just met for the first time earlier in the evening and at some point we kissed a couple of times. That ended there. I went out drinking with the same group of friends this weekend and met the same guy again. So we spoke and decided that we did not want any awkwardness and that we were adults and we should forget it. That agreed, we set about having fun with friends. Unfortunately we ended up alone again at some point and the whole kissing thing happened all over again, except that it went much further and we ended up at his place. After a lot of walking, talking and making out leading to us almost having sex I became quite sober and suddenly decided I want to go home because I was uncomfortable with the situation and I barely knew the guy. He was nice to me and dropped me home. [/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=verdana, arial, helvetica][sIZE=2]But now, I feel this overwhelming need to see him again and am so terribly attracted to him that I don't know what to do. Do you think after I walked out of him in bed he would still be interested? The other night I told him that we should forget anything ever happened. So since I was the one who said we should forget about what happened how do I tell him I am still attracted to him? I really want this to go ahead because we also spoke a lot that night and I think I have started to like this guy and am open to the idea of a casual fling initially just to see if it turns into something more.As guys what do you think should be my next move? HELP..![/sIZE][/FONT]
codycat Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Hey there, I think if you call him and ask him out for like a cup of coffee or something simple, I think he will accept. Surely he finds this whole situation humorous. As you can see besides all the fine qualities you have mentioned, he is also a gentleman. You left him in bed and he took it alright. He probably had a good laugh about it with the guys at work too. If I were him, I would gladly try a real date. Good Luck, write back on how it goes……
Happy Finally Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Insane, I agree with Codycat. The key is asking him out while sober. If this guy didn't get pissed that you pushed him out of bed and he took you home with out complaint or further pursuing the sex, then he will go out on a date with you. BE SOBER THOUGH!!!! And that is the hook I would use as an ice breaker. Just get in touch. Explain that you like him and enjoyed the time you had with him but you would like to go out and not drink. Tell him you just didn't want the alcohol to be a factor. If he is the gentlemen that he seems to be then you will get yourself a nice night out this man...and who knows what else.
Author insanearchitect Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 I agree about the sober dating thing, except that at the end of the night we both were so wierded out that neither asked the other for their phone numbers and I do not want to stalk him on fb. So I see no option except to wait till I am again at some place with common friends. The question is how do I say anything and what do I say when I do see him again with friends? (if I do)
Happy Finally Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I agree about the sober dating thing, except that at the end of the night we both were so wierded out that neither asked the other for their phone numbers and I do not want to stalk him on fb. So I see no option except to wait till I am again at some place with common friends. The question is how do I say anything and what do I say when I do see him again with friends? (if I do) It's not as hard as you are making it in your head. This guy respects you. He took you home. He made out with you twice. And when you stopped the sex he didn't pull the "I'll say whatever it takes routine" to get your panties off (just sayin). This means he respects you and that means he likes you for more than just a piece of ass. Get his phone number from a mutual friend. Find out when he will not answer his phone (unless you want to do this live) and give him a call. Leave him a message telling him how you enjoyed spending time with him. Let him know you would like to go out, just the two of you. Leave your number and let him know that if he just wants to be friends that is cool too but not to leave you hanging. Honesty is the best. You can call him because the new generation of men are mainly metro sexual B males and probably prefer a woman calling them !!! This bodes well for you....get his number and call him.
Chi townD Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I, as a guy, would have more respect for a girl if she stopped everything and stated that this truely isn't in her nature and wanted to slow things down. Because, I would know that she WANTS to get to know me as a person first and not just a drunken hook up. Nothing to be ashamed of. Meet up with him and tell him that you think that the two of you got off on the wrong foot but you are interested in him and would like to get to KNOW him first. If he's a good guy, he'll completely understand and would respect your wishes. Then, if it ever does get to the level that it did on that drunken night, if will feel completely natural and incredible rather than awkward. Don't worry, you did good and he now knows that you have a level of self respect.
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